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TeacherMom
Posts: 6
TeacherMom
First time mom, teaches 4th grade, LOVE to shop, read, lounge, eat, and nap.
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# Posted: 27 Nov 2007 00:33
Just wondering what everyone's view or previous experiences are. I would like to have a painless delivery, but the needle & tube inserted in my spine gives me the chills. Any thoughts/comments?
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heels
Posts: 118
heels
I am a full-time Business Development Specialist (though my degree is in Art- go figure!), Mom to Cole, and Wife to John. I belly dance and sew costumes in my "spare" time.
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# Posted: 27 Nov 2007 20:17
I went drug free and did not consider it to be painful. And I'm a wimp.
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alanaransley
Posts: 19
alanaransley
I am a suburban working mom surrounded by stay-at-home moms, in a community that caters to them. I have a son who is in first grade, and had a daughter in September of 2007. My husband has an hour-long commute, so it sometimes feels like I am a single mom.
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# Posted: 28 Nov 2007 00:24
I had epidurals with both of my children, and to me, getting the IV is far worse. The epidural allows you to still feel your contractions and have the urge to push, but not feel any pain. As my OB friend says, "those drugs were invented for a reason". New studies show there are no adverse affects on the baby to have an epidural, and it will not slow down your contractions. I would recommend it to anyone who is having a baby, but that is a personal decision. Some women find that hypnosis or massage works just as well, or even having a doula with you to support you through labor.
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Mandy Nelson - Dandysound
Posts: 392
Mandy Nelson - Dandysound
I'm a professional voice talent and mom to two fantastic girls. I run my own tiny company from home and find that juggling work at home and the kids, let alone the hubby and the house is a challenge every day. I'm also a yoga instructor which helps me get out of the house and clear my mind. I love everything I do (mom, work, wife, etc.) but am in a constant struggle for balance.
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# Posted: 28 Nov 2007 13:02
This is a personal decision for sure and one you should discuss with your doctor. The experience is so different for everyone...I did Hypnobirthing but, due to an extremely extended and tiring labor I opted for an epi and am so glad I did. I specifically requested that it BARELY be used so that I could still feel everything and so less of the drug was used and the experience was still fabulous. I didn't even feel it going in, except for a slight pinch. And I was able to get up and walk around as soon as the baby was delivered. For me it added to the experience and allowed me to enjoy (yes, you can enjoy l&d!!) the experience. You'll make the right decision for you. Again, discuss your concerns with your doc who knows the anesthesiologists and procedures at your hospital.
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Yes, Mommy has to work today
Posts: 142
Yes, Mommy has to work today
Full Time Work at Home Mom who is THRILLED with her Home Business, PTC Vice President, Ballet, Soccer, Baseball, car-pooling maniac with 5 kids, 1 great husband, dog and cat, started WAH Business and phased out of corporate USA, which is allowing me to breath a bit easier!
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# Posted: 28 Nov 2007 14:50 - Edited by: Yes, Mommy has to work today
My philosophy is to be prepared for anything! We all have plans and ideas of what we want. Many times, things change. With my first child, I didn't want an epidural, but I also knew I had a threshold. I was being induced and I had myself mentally prepared that I knew I could handle 8 hours of pain (I am not sure why 8 was the magic number). I did end up asking for an epidural and oddly enough it was around the 8 hour mark, although I had NO concept of time that day. I had been induced and coped well until my water was broken, the pitocin was increased and I was given an enema, plus due to high blood pressure I couldn't move around and try to alleviate the pain myself. Once I had the epidural, I was glad. VERY Glad. With my second child, I asked for the epidural sooner because I no longer feared it as I had the first time. And I was GLAD. With my third I had to have a scheduled c-section... which was actually less scary than I had anticipated because I didn't fear the spinal since I had had previous epidurals. Do what's right for you... don't let others make that decision for you. Don't resist pain meds because your husband or mother want you to... don't take them because the nurses or doctors are pushing you to. If you make a birth plan, be flexible and realize that you might change your mind and that's okay.
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Ashley
Posts: 5
Ashley
I'm the lucky mother of a beautiful little girl born on 1/3/08.
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# Posted: 28 Nov 2007 20:42
I'm going to try to have a natural L&D. Notice, I use the word try. I haven't completely opted out of having an epi, but to me it's a last resort. I fear the chain reaction many L&D interventions (like induction, epidurals, etc.) can have. I don't want to wind up having a surgical procedure done if I can avoid it. I think even if you're planning on having an epidural, try to go as long as you can without it. Everyone's bodies are different and you never know how yours will react. I've heard great epi stories and horrible epi stories.
In the end though, it's like Yes Mommy said, it's your birth plan. Do what makes you feel comfortable and happy. And we all have to remember, no matter what, end goal is healthy baby, healthy mommy.
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Victoria
Posts: 122
Victoria
I live and work in New York City!
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# Posted: 2 Dec 2007 22:48
I think this is a very personal decision. I chose to have epidural before going in. However, i didn't get it until I was 8cm dilated. I didn't have it administered till then bc i wasn't feeling much pain. I arrived to the hospital being 5cm dilated. At 8cm i got a bad contraction and asked for epidural primarily so it helped me not to feel pain during pushing. My dose wasn't high and I was still able to feel contractions. My last 15 contractions were very painful even with epidural but pushing was not painful at all! The pinch I felt while epidural was administered wasn't bad at all... In my case, I really had an easy time with the whole thing and was glad I got epidural.... but again, you should discuss with your doctor and do whatever is comfortable for you!
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Cynthia
Posts: 1
Cynthia
i'm just this girl... nothing fancy, nothing to fuss about.. just a regular ol gal making her way into the world.
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# Posted: 12 Jan 2008 13:49
I have two children and I didn't have any anesthesia on the first one and I felt everything, from the moment my stomach started cramping to the stitches they do after you give birth to 'closeup' your female area. There is a certain satisfaction you feel after giving birth naturally without any 'pain medications' but of course it is painful, but honestly speaking, the pain is temporary in giving birth, after you expel (ahem, pardon the words) your child from your womb, you feel a release of some sort that only mothers can feel I think.
Now for my second child, my delivery was painless, there was still some pain of course, specially during labor but I barely felt anything after that, I remember pushing but I didn't remember expelling my son into this world, when I woke up in the recovery room, I actually didn't realize that I gave birth! I thought I was still in labor.
Now this is my thought, if this will be your first child and you're a healthy individual and you don't have any major medical considerations, it would really be nice to go natural, why? You can say, it's a right of passage of some sort for moms, it would enable you to really 'feel' it, if you get my drift, but after that, for your second or third child maybe you can go painless, so as to lessen child birth pains. But as most of the commenters here said, it's really a personal decision, do what you, your partner, and your doctors think will be best for you and the baby of course.
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Brandy at www.BanishtheBadMoodMama.com
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Brandy at www.BanishtheBadMoodMama.com
Blessed mom of 6.
SElf Employed
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Love marketing, reading, movies
Strong intitution on powerful business concepts
Childbirth Educator and Doula
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# Posted: 11 Sep 2008 02:47
Educate yourself on all your options!! Learn pain management techniques and practice, practice, practice.
If you do need a meds an epidural is the safest IF you wait until your at least 5cm dilated.Otherwise you are 50% more likely to have a csection
To the poster who said epi do not interfer with pushing, and the baby, well honey you need to do more research!!! Studies also show that mothers who have epidurals have a harder time breastfeeding and are more likely to have ppd.
Recovery rated for natural birth is exteamly faster then medicated birth.With meds mom often have swelling, headaches, a disconnected feeling from the event and more.
Have you concidered a doula....having a douls reduces the need for pain meds dramaticly and can help you make educated decisions in case you feel the need for meds.
Blessing and congrats on your pregnancy
Brandy @ www.mybirthconnection.com
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BrendaG
Posts: 46
BrendaG
I am an overworked agency account person living in Cincinnati Oh. My hubby and I relatively new to the area and are trying to figure out how to meet new people when you're married with kids! Speaking of, I am also mom to a very charming and head-strong little boy!
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# Posted: 11 Sep 2008 12:22
We planned an epidural from day one. If there is a safe, proven way to make a very painful experience more comfortable in a controlled environment, I say why not? I would never opt out of anesthesia during a surgical procedure, I personally view this in the same way: a medical decision, not a badge of honor. It's certainly a personal decision, so I advise to do what is right for you instead of making this particular choice due to any peer pressure either way.
Every experience is different. Here is mine:
I arrived at the hospital 8 cm dilated and was worried I was going to have to bear all of the pain. The staff worked quickly through blood tests, etc. so I could have the epi. I barely felt the epidural insertion, pushed for 20 minutes, had no complications and my son was breastfeeding easily afterward. You can't walk around for a few hours, but I can't imagine that I would have felt "up for a walk" at that point anyway.
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Zoica
Posts: 17
Zoica
Founder and creative force behind www.zoicamatei.com, a fashion designer on a mission to create sustainable apparel. My slow fashion philosophy is reflected through my every day conscious choices, while creating timeless pieces, collectibles, which embrace simplicity of form, and focus on detail.
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# Posted: 11 Sep 2008 15:57
I think you need to keep that option open. It is absolutely safe, and not all of us can deal with the pain in the same way. You can have it while in labor, if the pain is unbearable. With first pregnancy they say it is harder. I even heard of pain free, without epidural, but was not my case.
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Corvette1975
Posts: 4
Corvette1975
One kid, one husband, two cats, one mortgage, one job I really love, one hellacious commute, and I live in the DC metro area.
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# Posted: 11 Sep 2008 17:08
It has always seemed wierd to me this was such a "personal decision" or could ignite such debate. You either want one or you don't.
Ok, aside from that, I knew I'd be doing the epi when I had my son. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. I'm not into pain. However, getting the epi hurt like a b-tch. I don't know if I had Mr. New Anestheseologist (sp?) or what, but it was bad. On the other hand, once he was done hacking around in my back, I felt no pain. My contractions were nothing, my legs felt a little heavy but ok, and so on.
I also had no side- or after-effects wih the epi. I guess some people claim to have back problems or headaches after the epi was removed, but I didn't. About 15 minutes after the epi was removed, I was back to normal -- no worse for wear.
Lastly, as one piece of advice -- have hopes when you go in to give birth, but scrap the expectations. Things and events can change on a dime and you really do need to be flexible. That, and birth can be more (or less) painful than you imagined, so don't shut any option out.
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Francesca
Posts: 56
Francesca
I absolutely love helping other people achieve their goals. I love being home with my child. I share my passion for fitness and my passion to create the life I want with many people. Socailize with me and see what's possible.
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# Posted: 11 Sep 2008 17:21
Pretty simple. Do you take motrin or tylenol? Then why not use an epidural? It really works well. That's my 2 cents.
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Evansmom
Posts: 8
Evansmom
I am a working mom with a 10 month old son and a 9 yr old step-daughter.
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# Posted: 12 Sep 2008 14:26
I think everyone is different. I am not a wimp, but I hear some women walking around at 5cm and didn't even know it. I thought I was going to die just getting to 3 cm, the worst pain ever, I couldn't do anything. I just think everyones body responds differently and it is a game time decision!
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