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Moving to a new city

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  We are moving in 3 weeks and I am beginning to get really freaked out about it all. Any suggestions from btdt moms? Changing jobs in the process, sending dd to daycare after being with a nanny for 3 years, and unfortunately, don't have many friends in the area.

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 8th May 2007
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  Nataly
  
  I have not moved cities but have moved both my children from daycare to nanny and then nanny to daycare. If your daughter is 3, then it's probably a great time to move her into daycare and that might be one worry just to strike off your list. Both my kids liked daycare, and my more active child loved it. Depending upon their personality it could be the best thing for them, especially for more active children. You might need to invest a bit of time in helping her get used to it but the daycare transition will hopefully be a no brainer for you.
  
  Best of luck on the move.

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by boysmommy on 9th May 2007
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  I did this. I moved from Northern Virginia to Austin, TX last October, with my two boys in tow. New daycares for both, plus a secondary move when we moved from an apartment in Austin to a house in Round Rock, TX.. all with new jobs for both hubby and I (I had a guaranteed contract job when we moved - he didn't have anything - luckily he got a contract job and I found perm work shortly after I got here).
  
  Daycare is a good thing, as long as it's quality daycare. As to finding friends - your best bet there will be moms of other children in daycare with your child, or neighbors. Perhaps join a local chapter of a professional organization, too?
  
  One thing we did with the move itself, was we made setting up our then three year old's room top priority - it had to be set up before even our room. His bed in the right place, his dresser, his clothes put away in his drawers - we made sure he felt safe and knew where everything was. Especially around the 3-4 age, that's important.
  
  Feel free to ping me anytime if you have any specific questions!

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Delney on 9th May 2007
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  Thanks both Dilek and Delney for your support and suggestions - I really do appreciate them! I do think daycare is the right choice for our daughter now that she is 3, but just worried about all of us getting used to it.
  
  Delney, wow, you had a lot going on with your move - and you go through it - so I am encouraged! I will definitely follow your advice of setting up my daughter's room before all else - I think it is a great point! (She is really into having her stuff in order - so I can see how this is important).
  
  Just the thought of packing up all the stuff, then unpacking it, while changing jobs - it terrifies me - but hopefully we can all get through it ok!
  
  Thanks again for the encouragement!

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 9th May 2007
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  Nataly -
  
  If you can manage it financially, pay someone else to pack it, and possibly even unpack it. We paid for packing and moving - unpacked ourselves. It was so worth it. In fact, I was already in TX with the boys (hubby's mom flew out to help us fly here) and hubby just watched the movers pack. I was already at my new contract job when the movers arrived with our stuff, in fact.
  
  Are you moving closer to family? That's the main reason we moved.. and it's been wonderful. My mother-in-law takes my eldest on a weekend night every few weeks at least, and it's very nice knowing they're close if something happens.

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Delney on 10th May 2007
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  That's a good suggestion - have to see how much they will charge - we are in fact moving because of family - both of our parents are there - so I know it will be great for dd - not sure how much I will like it though... but hopefully it will be a bit easier with some help

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 10th May 2007