Forget making New Year's resolutions. They rarely work because they are often based on "shoulds" isntead of the bigger picture of your life. What I've found does work is creating a life theme for the year ahead.
Your life theme will be your overriding intention or "big picture" focus for the upcoming months. It has an expiration date of December 31, when you'll get a chance to re-evaluate your direction. Having a life theme is like having a personal mission statement for your whole life, personal and professional, updated annually. A life theme works because it takes into consideration and connects all your intentions for the year in a succinct and powerful phrase that describes what you want to accomplish in all areas of your life and cements your main priorities with intended action.
Here are a few examples:
Discover Your Intentions. Perhaps, as you've explored who you are and what you want to create for your life, you've noticed that "Wellbeing" or "Wellness" comes up over and over again. Or maybe you've noticed more of a "Relationship" focus, or maybe the word "Passion" has tugged at your heart repeatedly, or you've focused on "Patience." These are all great themes for the upcoming year. Through your own personal discovery, you may recognize that you haven't made time in your life for many friends, that your networks are weak and that you'd like to have a social circle beyond your immediate family. Your life theme in this case could be "Connection." It may be you've realized that your life is far more filled with work and errands than with fun and play, and you want to fix that imbalance. Your life theme then could be "Energize."
Feel the Magic. Base your theme on what you find joyful and what you want to accomplish both personally and professionally. Your theme needs to strike an emotional chord with you and bring a smile to your face when your say it. You must own it. You must feel your theme's magic. It must propel you forward. Take a few moments to reflect on the bigger picture vision you have for your life. What would you like to accomplish first? What will bring you joy and fulfillment with your work, your family, and your personal time? What is the essence of what you wish to experience in this upcoming year?
Brief is Best. When the phrase reveals itself to you, try to keep it to a maximum of five words. You will know when you've found the right phrase. Feel the power of these concise life themes: Let go. Rebuild. Move Forward. Growth and Independence. Balance and Follow-through. Connection. Stretch. Calm and Quiet.
Get Started. Once your life theme is clear, write it down. Put it where you will see it every day as a reminder of where you are heading this year. Tell loved ones, friends and colleagues what your life theme is. The more often you say it, the more real it will become. Every time you make a decision, large or small, put it through your life-theme filter. If your theme is "adventure and fun" perhaps you'll say "no" that new pair of shoes and "yes" to signing up for a rock climbing course.Ask yourself every morning when you wake up: "What can I do today to experience my life theme?"
The key to success is to be intentional with your thoughts and actions on a daily basis. By living intentionally and with purpose, you'll never feel the need to make another New Year's resolution again.
About the Author:
Author of Briefcase Moms: 10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers’ Lives,
Lisa Martin is a sought-after expert and speaker on work-life balance issues. http://www.briefcasemoms.com
