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In contrast to most advice columns, I think procrastination has less to do with fear, and more to do with hope.
When you procrastinate on doing the "big rocks" in your life (finding your next career step, starting a business, writing your book, etc.) you do so to preserve hope: As long as you don’t "put yourself out there," then you can hang on to the possibility that someday you will live up to your ideal of yourself and earn the respect of people important to you.
You have an inner debate between the part of you that believes in you and the part of you that doesn’t think you are enough or have what it takes. You are worried that if your efforts to take a bold next step don’t go well you will never be able to live up to the dream you have for yourself (or at least not without an insurmountable amount of effort). The “not enough” part will have won for good. That would lead to hopelessness.
Your procrastination behaviors are an effort to prevent the bursting of that bubble. By not testing your capability in the real world, you can hold onto the hope you are still capable of achieving dreams you’ve long had for yourself. You can hold onto the hope that the good impression you have made on people to date will endure because you won’t expose what’s really (not) inside. Procrastination serves the psychological purpose of allowing you to have hope that you will prove and redeem yourself in the future, so that you can accept your “not good enough” self and keep going for now.
The problem is that when you don’t put yourself out there, you also don’t grow from experiences. You don’t move your life forward.
Take Away: People who procrastinate seek relief. They get rewards by living in hope. Successful people seek real results. They get rewards by contributing what they love and learning from their mistakes.
Here are some tips on what to do the next time you find yourself procrastinating:
1) Instead of drowning in “I can’t do it. What if?” focus on what you are passionate about. Reflect on what lessons have you learned from your experiences in the workplace, or in your life, what those lessons inform you to do and contribute next, and what form do you want it to take.
2) Rather than projecting to the possible future negative outcomes, tap into how much you enjoy doing the activities that you’ll need to do every day in order to have that final outcome (e.g., enjoy the daily/weekly practice of writing a blog about your subject, and leverage the compiled material for your book). Just set your sights on the next of small milestones you’ve set along the way to the big outcome.
