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7. Set gift-giving guidelines. This goes hand-in-hand with the idea of simplifying. Agree with the relatives that you will exchange only one toy per child. Discuss the idea of doing something with family instead of exchanging gifts that no one wants. Determine how much money you want to spend based on your budget before you begin shopping. Go in with a plan and the process will feel easier and more enjoyable.

8. Aim for connection, not perfection. When we get caught up in doing it “just so,” we all too often are focused on the wrong things. Whether you are decorating the tree, making a holiday meal with your mother-in-law, picking out gifts, or ordering the holiday cards, what is important is the connection you are making with the person or people involved. Let your child hang the ornament wherever he likes, use the time in the kitchen to ask your mother-in-law about her youth, pick out a gift for someone from your heart, and consider what you want those receiving your holiday card to feel when they open it. Whether any of those things turn out perfectly is less important then the memory you are creating and the relationship you are nurturing.

9. Give a gift to yourself. This is the season for caring, sharing, and loving. Why not turn a bit of that in your own direction? Instead of waiting for someone else to get you the perfect gift, why not give it to yourself? I am not talking about a material gift, although maybe that would be nice as well. Instead, I am talking about the gift of time. Give yourself some time to slow down, breath, relax, and rejuvenate. You will feel more positive and energetic and better able to enjoy the holidays.

10. And did I mention slow down and breathe?

Nicola Ries Taggart is a life coach who specializes in helping professionals turned new parents create a work-life balance they can enjoy. Send her a message through her Work It, Mom! profile by clicking here.