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2.) Keep a gratitude journal. "Keeping a gratitude list is an effective way to release stress, and improves physical and emotional well-being," Katz says, citing research that shows that people who keep gratitude journals exercise more regularly, feel healthier, have more energy, are more positive, and feel more satisfied with their lives than people who journaled their negative or even neutral thoughts and feelings.  "They also experienced more optimism about upcoming events and were closer to achieving their goals after a two-month period than those who did not keep journals," Katz points out.

3.) Disengage, when necessary. This is a difficult idea for most step parents, especially stepmoms, who may feel that love will conquer all and if they just try a little harder, their stepkids may love them in return. "Disengaging can be quite effective for those of us who are burnt out from excessive responsibilities, over-involvement in stepfamily crises, or enduring toxic relatives for too long," Katz says. "Disengagement is a process in which you pull back from some responsibilities or relationships. When you limit your contact with difficult people, you are no longer in a position to be ignored, rejected, or taken advantage of."

4.) Reach out to other stepparents for support and acknowledgement. "Being a stepparent can be a lonely experience, even when surrounded by many family members," Katz says. "You may not feel comfortable sharing your difficulties with family and friends." But by connecting and networking with other stepparents, "You can release negative feelings by sharing them with those who understand what you are going through," Katz says. Consider joining a stepparent support group, either in your community or online, she suggests. "You will receive the guidance and encouragement you need from those who have 'been there,' as you embark on your journey toward a life of greater peace and fulfillment."