Yes, anti-feminists and conservatives will be pissed. But you know who else will be? Stay-at-home Moms. Try waking up and checking your blogrolls to find that the feminist blogosphere has embraced "scientific-proof" that your life isn't as happy as you thought it was five 5 minutes earlier.
According to a study reported by the BBC, working mothers are happier than ones that stay at home.
I'm not so convinced. I'm not saying that I'm not happy. Neither do I think that my stay-at-home-mom counterpart is living it up on bon-bons, a la Peg Bundy. But personally, I think there are some days when I am, some days when I'm not. This isn't a race. There isn't a shortage of happiness in this world, and the way people are splitting "The Motherhood" into two camps just pisses me off.
Feministing responded to the BBC story with this:
It's not exactly surprising that women who have paid jobs are happier than their unpaid stay-at-home counterparts. But this is the kind of study that just pisses conservatives and anti-feminists off to no end; they'd rather believe that women are pleased as punch to pick up socks and change diapers at home all day. You know, because it comes natural to us.
I have always known that I was not made to be a SAHM. My maternity leave was great, but I was pretty bored. I did go out to Mommy & Me yoga classes, but didn't really socialize with the other moms. No sense in getting used to a play group when the gig is up in a few weeks. The day I went back to work was a great day for me. I didn't cry, I didn't worry too much about how my daughter was doing. I trusted my caregivers and dove right back into work.
I also know some really amazing SAHMs who love what they do. You can see it on their faces -- it's not that they're happy to be home "picking up socks," but they are happy to spend time watching their kids play and discovering things that I honestly miss out on.
I asked some mommy bloggers how they felt about being a stay-at-home-mom, and here's what one of them said:
"I have been working part time/freelance up until this past June when I went full time SAHM after my work contract just fell through. I LOVE IT!!!!! I have a huge social network and we meet up in the mornings, afternoons and evenings -- depending on the day. Sometimes I think about having another baby to prolong going back to work when they all start kindergarten. Ha! We are never home and always out doing fun things during times of the day/week when it's not crowded. And no, I'm not picking up socks all day. I do it at the end of the day and we play all day with friends (both mine and theirs).