I have been asked numerous times in comments on how I balance my everyday juggle. The answer is I don't. I don't have any time management formula and I do not have a set schedule for each day, week or month. Each day brings with it unique characteristics, and no matter how much barriers I try to put in between my work and my family, there still are some gray areas. The real issue is not to erect barriers, and go with a set schedule. The real issue is to tilt slowly, tilt gently, to the left and to the right and make room for the other even when it seems impossible. The real issue is to live your life to its fullest not worrying about whether its going as planned or not.
The term work-life balance is superficial and a dangerous trap because it makes you think that work is not a part of life, that it should be completely secluded. And that is understandable considering these statistics.
- In the United States, the average number of working hours is probably the highest it’s been in seventy five years.
- Five million workers in the UK put in almost two months worth of unpaid overtime a year.
- Ninety percent of working adults said they are concerned they do not spend “enough time” with their families.
- Seventy percent said they don’t have a healthy “balance between their personal and work lives”.
But for someone like me who love my job, and think of my job as my life not just a paycheck, the idea of balance means nothing to me. The idea of fullness of life however makes much more sense. As I type this, my daughter is in a deep slumber because we had a full schedule for her today, she went to Party Hoppers, rode a nice car in the mall, I mean, the car was stationary plus she bounced up and down the entire mall chasing after some mysterious ladybug. And now, I am sitting on my laptop answering emails, phone calls, writing a blog post and getting ready for the full week ahead. That is what really makes me an efficient mother. I will work into the wee hour of the night and retire for the night, however, I would have accomplished what needed to be accomplished for the day.
And I know this might be a little too much for mothers of more than one kid, and which is why I value outsourcing. I am seriously in support of outsourcing because it allows you to focus on things that add value rather than work your butt off doing laundry, cleaning and running errands when you could be spending more time with your loved ones making breakfast, running in the park or you could be working on your next business proposal. Life is what you make of it. I like to seek fullness rather than clutter in life. The secret to time management is not multitasking, its doing one thing at a time, and getting the best reward possible.