There is one thing that is totally missing from every diet and weight-loss program ever created.
When you first start losing weight, how do you feel? Do you feel excited, proud of yourself?What do you feel when you notice that you’ve already fallen off the wagon? Do you feel angry with yourself, or do you feel like a failure? Do you just feel like eating even more?
When we start a new diet or exercise program, we get fired up, and might even throw away the foods we know are not good for us. We feel motivated! But let me tell you a bit about motivation. Motivation comes in two flavors: “Pure Motivation” and “Dirty Motivation.”
Pure Motivation is based on love and appreciation -- we want to look good, and feel energized and healthy. Dirty motivation, on the other hand, is based on fear and hatred -- we are afraid of looking bad and are worried about failing; we want to change because we hate the way we look.
The secret to losing weight, getting fit, and staying fit forever is this: Get rid of the dirty motivation and become purely motivated.
Once you make peace with yourself, start appreciating and loving yourself for who you truly are, increase your level of confidence and self-esteem (which many times is not even related to our weight), then any diet or program will work. Even those that you’ve already done in the past that worked for a little while will start working consistently.
I have been there. I know your pain really well. I’ve struggled all my life trying to get in shape because I hated the way I looked. I was always trying to lose weight to fit in, feel successful, and raise my self-esteem. However, once I started to raise my self-esteem and confidence, the weight began to drop off and stay off. Today I exercise and eat well because I just love it!
Here are a few tips that helped me:
1.) Stop dieting for a while. Does that sound strange and scary? I am not saying you should go straight to the fridge and start eating everythig you see in front of you. For many of us, diet means punishment. Right now we are learning how to love and appreciate ourselves, so it’s not time for beating ourselves up.
2.) Make a list of all the advantages and positive emotions of eating too much. You heard me right! There are pros about keeping a bad habit, otherwise we would have stopped already. We need to identify these advantages, so we can fill our needs with new good habits.
3.) Buy nice clothes. Don’t wait until you lose the weight to start dressing nicely. You don’t have to go crazy and buy the whole store. Buy a few outfits that you really love and wear them, no matter what size you are. Seeing ourselves in sweat pants and a T-shit everyday does not help build a positive self-image.