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The key, of course, is to look at the situation more objectively and come up with a thorough analysis of all the factors that went into the situation not working out – factors that had to do with you, the other person, the systems between you that broke down, the aspects of your business skills you can make a plan to improve, etc. This detailed analysis will give you lots of information that you can use to stop blaming the other person, to stop condemning yourself by confirming your worst doubt and fear about yourself – and most importantly, to learn lessons you can start using in your business life today!

Questions to ask yourself:

1.) What is a situation that you are having a hard time letting go of?

2.) How have you been dealing with it? (i.e., Do you try to just "tuck it away," i.e., telling yourself “I’m not going to think about it anymore”? Notice that strategy probably works OK until… the very next time the memory comes up again in your mind. Or do you try to distract yourself from thinking about it? (Although that can sometimes lead to unconstructive diversions such as surfing the internet, eating, or working yourself to the bone.)

3.) What are the explanations are you giving for why the situation happened?

4.) When you dig deeper, what belief about yourself have you been confirming that has been making you ‘hold onto’ and obsess about this situation, rather than understanding it and moving on?