A common response from Moms is “but my kids need me to be there”. Do you children really need you to take them to practice, or do they need you more to lead them by example to accomplishing their future dreams? I’ve fallen into this trap every once in a while, only to be jolted out by my eldest daughter. One day when my daughter was seven, I picked her up from summer camp. As we were driving home she said, “Katie’s Mom is a very famous hand surgeon. She’s one of the best in the world. What do you do, Mom?” Oh my gosh, my daughter wanted a rundown of my resume. When I wrote my first book, my daughter was my biggest fan. She took the proof copy to school. I still remember how proud she was to show everyone the book that day. She told all our neighbors. She told all of her friends’ parents. She told anyone who would listen to her. She managed to even work my book into a school project and have it put on display. My point is you need to spend time with your children, but not all your time. Your career does have meaning to them.
As a parent, you want to be proud of your children, but remember that your children want to be proud of you as well. Who you are and whether you fulfill your dreams does silently say something to your children? Children are great observers. They ignore the words and look at the actions. Their lack of command of languages forces them to do so. If you give up your dreams for them, they will do the same. Do you want your children to achieve their aspirations or do you want them to push them aside before reaching their goals? They are the biggest reason you need to succeed with your dreams.
Cynthia Kocialski is the founder of three tech start-ups companies. In the past 15 years, she has been involved in dozens of start-ups. Cynthia is the author of two books and she writes the Start-up Entrepreneurs’ Blog www.cynthiakocialski.com.