7.) Challenge in a way that will grow your relationship. He may recogise that you have every right to go to the breakfast once a month, and will grudgingly, or resentfully, agree. Challenge this response in a non-threatening way, because it is not the team response you want. See if you can get him to talk about what he is feeling, but let him own his feelings. Don't take them on to yourself. He will be struggling with the realization that there is a new agenda in your relationship. He is not sure about it. Part of him may sense that this could be good for you both, but the other part may be quite anxious about it because it is the unknown. Reassure him at this stage by telling him that if you both work together to help each other achieve his/her goals you will both be happy.
8.) If the going gets tough, have a break, but don't give up. If you are getting nowhere and one or both of you are getting angry or very negative and the discussion is no longer productive, suspend it. "This is not helpful. We are getting nowhere here. Let's leave it for now, but this is very important to me and I want to come back to it and continue this discussion in the near future."
Few women will persist like this with their men. It is very important to do so. The modern workplace is very geared to the needs of men rather than women or families. Only when women persist in seeing that their needs and of those of their families are met will anything change.
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