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What is an Uber-mom?

Surviving competitive parenting

by Trish K  |  23806 views  |  6 comments  |        Rate this now! 

I live in a upwardly mobile suburban area of Massachusetts. I moved here 12 years ago before I got married for no other reason than the taxes were low and for the commuter rail which was easy access to Boston for the hubster. I wasn't looking at schools, housing costs, blah blah blah. I was looking to move out of my parents' house and to marry Mike...that was pretty much it.

Funny thing happened on my way to my late thirties...the town boomed.

I had my two children and continued to work.

And about three years ago I had my first experience with sending my daughter to public school.

I also had my first experience with an Uber-Mom

On Cat's first day of Kindergarten I was approached by the soon-to-be-named classroom mom. I had no idea what that was, but apparently it's someone who assists the teacher in getting information out to the parents, etc.

To hide her identity, let's call her Becky...

Becky The Room Mom was dressed in full Talbots casual wear from head to toe. Her beautiful highlighted hair was flipped out on the bottom and neatly blow dried. Nails, subtle, but painted, clutching her Louis Vuitton backpack. Of course, she was petite and drove the largest suburbanescaladevolvomobile I had ever seen.

I hated her instantly....jealous perhaps? (hell YEAH)

Apparently Becky's daughter and Cat were in the same $60-a-month ballet school together, so we got to talking. Not only was Becky's daughter in ballet, she also did karate, soccer, daisies and piano.

My first thought: "Where do you find the time, what does your husband do for work and are they HIRING?"

After I sheepishly admitted that my daughter was only participating in ballet, Becky's mom requested the ever-so-popular playdate. So I knew my next statement was going to go over like a lead balloon.

"...Well, I work full time so it would need to be a Saturday or Sunday..." (cough cough) as I nervously shifted my eyes around the room to see if I was going to be thrown out for being a working mother.

"No problem, do you want to do it at my house or yours?" (Yes ,she lived in a starter mansion)

As the years went on I watched Becky and realized she was truly Super aka Uber:

  • Volunteered in the classroom constantly (she always got picked as room mom and to chaperone for field trips)
  • Worked out in the best gym
  • Perfect Straight hair that flipped at the bottom
  • Said words like "terrific" and "super"
  • Her kids were the first ones in school to have crocs
  • Had lots of Southern Living home parties
  • Called the Principal of our school by her first name (I never had the guts to do that)
If you are an Uber-mom, don't feel insulted...just feel envied!!!

6 comments so far...

  • I am a working mom who is the class room helper for my K...but the rest..just ain't happening!! too funny

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by hot_shuz on 21st April 2008

  • OMG - this was a riot! I am a ft working ...single Mom...the only thing than worse to an Uber Mom is a single wft Mom!

    Funny article! Nice to see some posts from Massachusetts

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Carrie Sylvester on 15th September 2007

  • Well, I say "fantastic" from time to time, but other than that, can't put a check next to any of those - too bad:)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 29th August 2007

  • wow..thats alot of work to be an UBER-Mom.but I think all moms are super. Noone can do what a mom does! Great article and very funny

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 29th August 2007

  • Uber-moms. I live abroad. The only Uber-moms at my daughter's school are American (I am American). I watch them and I think, "You go, girl." Even if I had the time, I would not volunteer at the school. Mostly because I have a low tolerance for noise :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KatieK on 29th August 2007

  • Love this! I live in a similar town in Long Island and I do my very best to stay away from Uber-Moms. This is a difficult task since there are so many in my town. I had the additional challenge of being a part time working mom so I lived half my life as a working mom and half my life as a SAHM. This creates more conflict because I was constantly trying to do my best in both worlds which is exhausting! (Truth be told, deep down my identity has always been as a working mom as opposed to a SAHM). Your piece is very witty and very real and I enjoyed it immensely.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Megan on 28th August 2007