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The Best Technique I Used in Restoring My Marriage

I committed myself to making it an incredible partnership

by Dr. Isabella Santorini  |  2930 views  |  2 comments  |        Rate this now! 

This is a very personal story.  I’ve been married to a wonderful man for 12 years.  During that time, we’ve had our share of stresses, not unlike most marriages. 

We began our marriage just before were started medical school together.  After graduation, we started our own clinic.  Financial concerns were always foremost in our minds.  Sometimes we acted like a team, but mostly, we didn’t.  It wasn’t that we didn’t love one another, we just did not know how to create a great marriage.

Time went on and we made an awful business decision.  Then I became pregnant.  Life was tougher than ever.  I had horrible morning sickness for three months, during which time we decided that we’d have to declare bankruptcy and close our medical office.

My husband and I drifted farther and farther apart.  Now, with one income rather than two, our financial situation did not get any better. 

Finally, we were just two people, going through the motions, and we didn’t even bother to be that kind to one another anymore. 

That was the last straw for me.  I told my husband that we needed to get help.  We knew that we loved each other, and now, we had a child to consider.

So, we went to work.

We took an online class that actually taught us how to create a wonderful marriage.  This helped us to begin to communicate with one another.  That went a long way to solving our problems.

The very best thing that I did personally for my marriage, which was something I learned from my marriage expert, was that I started to respect my husband.  It’s not a very nice thing to admit, but it was easy for me to blame him for not being the perfect person.  I didn’t necessarily say critical things out loud, but I thought them often.  I’m certain that this made my husband feel unappreciated and unsupported.

I went back to what I’d learned from my marriage expert.  I learned that women are very strong and they have the power to help inspire the men in their lives.  So I decided that I would do that.

I didn’t focus upon all that he wasn’t.  Instead, I started appreciating him for what he did.  Many men are basically good people, trying hard to provide for their families.  I’m married to such a man.  I started to take care of him more, doing little things for him and cooking great meals.  I paid attention to what he might need.

This was not at all about being subservient to my husband.  I don’t believe in that.  It was about building a great partnership.  He takes care of me in many ways, and I started really taking care of him.  I began treating him with more kindness and appreciation. 

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Dr. Isabella Santorini learned to create a great marriage from a master. She now has a powerful partnership with her husband. Learn from the best at:

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2 comments so far...

  • great article!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 10th June 2008

  • I really appreciate you and your honesty that you shared such a personal experience with all to help each one of us who read this... good luck for everything... it takes so much to admit the mistake that you made and to correct it... you sure are a wonderful person...

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Archi on 4th June 2008