In a recent survey of working moms, almost all agreed that guilt was the strongest emotion they felt their first week back at work - the guilt of leaving their kids, the guilt of having less family time and the guilt of missing special events. If you are feeling guilty, ask yourself if the guilt is real or if you feel bad because your family is feeling hurt. Keep the lines of communication open. Have a discussion with your family and let them tell you how they are feeling. Let your family know why you made the decision to go back to work and how they can be involved in your new schedule.
It is natural for you and your family to have mixed emotions about going back to work. The one thing all working moms agree on: It gets better with time. You will learn to balance schedules, find a routine and ask for help. Just give yourself time. You may decide working outside the home isn't right for you right now, after all, but you need time to make the adjustment before you can make that decision
You also need to be kind to yourself during your first weeks back at work. Women are so used to taking care of others that we tend to feel selfish when we nurture ourselves. So, making a decision to go back to work- doing something for yourself- can make you feel uneasy at first. If you are feeling like that, ask yourself these questions: Does having a job make you a better mom? Better person? Do you enjoy your work? Are you feeling a sense of accomplishment? If you answered yes to most of these questions, then you are probably doing the right thing. Take confidence in that.
Going back to work is a huge life transition. You are making a lifestyle change that affects not only you, but your family as well. It is easy to focus on everyone else and forget about yourself. However, it is important to take care of your physical, emotional and spiritual well being. Always consider how you are feeling and always take time for you.