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Life on MY terms

Do what you have to do, to live the you want to live

by Single Ma  |  380 views  |  1 comment  |        Rate this now! 

“Do what I have to do, so I can do what I want to do.” -- The Great Debaters

I know I’m late, but I finally got around to watching The Great Debaters.  The quote above is one a father taught his son.  Although he was referring to working hard and doing well in school before pursuing extracurricular activities, I can apply the quote to many areas of my life -- especially finances.

Do what I have to do…
  • Work hard smart and remain competitive in my career field
  • Maximize my income
  • Track my expenses and live beneath my means
  • Practice delayed gratification
  • Pay my credit card balance(s) in full every month
  • Pay ALL bills on time
  • Save for emergencies
  • Invest for retirement

…so I can do what I want to do:
  • Pursue a better job whenever I am ready or quit a job when I’m not happy
  • Live day to day without worry about bills, food, needs, OR wants
  • Find comfort in knowing that money will be the least of my concerns in an emergency
  • Find comfort in knowing my golden years will truly be GOLDEN
  • Pamper myself with hair, mani, pedi and spa days
  • Dine out whenever the mood strikes me
  • Plan a spontaneous vacation
  • Donate money without thinking twice
  • Forgive an unpaid personal loan without forgetting resentment
  • Shop for shoes, shoes, and more shoes

By making responsible financial decisions, even when I don’t want to, I have the flexibility and freedom to make other decisions that bring me joy.

I won’t even lie.  Man, it’s hard! Especially when I have to ignore flashy distractions that provide a temporary thrill.  You know, like the iPhone.  That shiny, black Mercedes CLK.  A fully furnished, three bedroom, single-family home in my current zip code.  A Dior handbag.  Or a pair of Cavalli shoes.  It’s soooo easy to say “screw this” and go on a spending spree.  I can, but I won’t.  At the end of the day, what does all of that “stuff” get me?  Nothing, but debt and stress... and maybe a few bragging rights to impress people I don’t even like.

Instead, I do what I have to do, so I can do what I want to do.  And live life on MY terms.

About the Author

A working (single) mom and author of the personal finance blog Fabulous Financials @ http://fabulousfinancials.com

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  • Fabulous article! I think so many times we get caught up in the "wants" we forget if we focus on the "needs" first we can indulge without feeling guilty.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kelly O on 14th July 2008

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