6.) Conflicts and misunderstandings never have a resolution. You could argue for hours over nothing. A partner who is interested in maintaining a high level of control over your life wants to keep you off balance. A high degree of conflict, with little or no possibility of resolution, is a way to keep you off balance.
7.) Your partner is secretive and frequently disappears. If you have someone in your life who checks out from time to time without an explanation, you need to ask yourself what is really going on. Usually people who keep secrets have very good reasons for doing so. Do you really want to be around to find out what it is? It's almost guaranteed to make you unhappy when you find out the reason.
8.) Your partner is unreliable and frequently breaks promises, no matter how small. You can't plan a life with someone who will not be accountable -- plain and simple.
9.) Your partner has a lot of unfinished business with an ex-spouse, lover, or children. This is a tough one. You may think you have met your soul mate if only the timing were right. There is a difference between unfinished business and dealing with the fallout from a divorce or separation. If he/she has children, what is the quality of those relationships and how important are they? If your partner is not paying child-support, visiting his/her children, or not making them a top priority, this is a serious character flaw that will not be made better by time.
10.) Your partner lies to get what he/she wants. A liar is not likely to change. Overt manipulation, or lies by omission, are clear indicators of poor character and a self-serving and exploitative approach to interpersonal relationships. You will spend all of your time trying to be a private detective to uncover the truth. Don't bother.
If you are struggling in a dead-end relationship that is harmful to your physical or mental well-being, seek professional help and guidance. A good relationship will enhance the quality of your life, rather than diminish it. No relationship is worth jeopardizing your spiritual, physical, and emotional health.
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