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An excerpt from "Rockabye: From Wild to Child" by Rebecca Woolf

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Parenthood is not amnesia. One doesn’t wake up and forget where she has come from or who she is. Once upon a time, none of us were parents, and that matters for something. All the things we used to do matter -- going to rock concerts and traveling the world, one-night stands, falling in and out of love, pursuing ideas and projects and a life. Bringing a child into the world shouldn’t mean locking ourselves out of our own. Nothing will be lost on those who explore their passions limitlessly.

Archer puts down his book and scampers to my bedside. I empty a box of finger puppets on the bed beside me and remove my headphones.

I explain to him that I’m writing a book about us and that I need just a few more minutes and then I promise I’ll play him a song on the guitar about monsters and poop and poop-monsters. He has become a fan of my freestyle guitar jams, delighting in my lyrical turns featuring the Diaper Genie and its hovering stench. Poop, there it is! Archer recently took up keyboard, pounding the rainbow keys fervently, laughing at my nonsense and throwing a few wails in there for good measure. A proper bandmate he has become.

“Twenty minutes and we’ll rock out, okay?”

Archer babbles something in response, shrugs, and slides down off the bed with two handfuls of finger puppets.

“Rarrrrr!” he growls, running back to his room, spilling his puppets on Max and the wild things.

And I maximize my page on the computer screen, turn up my iTunes and write on until it’s time for band practice. A laptop in exchange for a Fender Stratocaster – slightly out of tune to suit our squeaking voices, and so loud the neighbors will have to close their windows.

“A one, a two... a one, two, three four!”

From the book Rockabye by Rebecca Woolf. Reprinted by arrangement with Seal Press, a member of the Perseus Books Group. Copyright © 2008.

2 comments so far...

  • Excellent. I always tell new moms, don't forget that you were YOU before you were MOM. It's okay NOT to lose yourself and your passions and dreams. Motherhood is just one of many facets of your personality, one of many roles you play. Dont' give up the spark of genius that makes you the woman that you are.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mom2Rylie on 26th August 2008

  • Firstly, our family loves Where the Wild Things Are too! It is a magical story. Secondly, I agree that having children is not a sacrifice. Sometimes I feel like Motherhood can suck the brain cells right out of my head, but most of the time it inspires me to do more and be better, not only for my self but for my girls too.

    I write for a living too, just in a different way. I am a broadcast news writer and producer. I am writing more freelance magazine articles these days ( something I love to do), and working hard at being more creative with my blog. It's still in its infancy but growing every day.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Christy Laverty on 14th August 2008