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3.) Develop a system for accountability (and rewards, if appropriate). Rather than micro-manage a delegated task, mutually set up a process for how and when you’ll follow-up or check-in. They key here is “mutually.” You will foster self-confidence and independence, especially in your young children, when you co-create the process for follow-up. As an example, if you want to elicit the help of your children with household chores, begin by agreeing on a specific room in the house (i.e. their bathroom or bedroom). Then, ask them to develop a list of three to five things that need to be done to keep the area clean. Next agree on the standards for accountability; for example, maintaining the general order of the area is an on-going responsibility, but major cleaning occurs on Saturdays. You might also agree on whether you would be available if they need help, and how long you will wait before asking them about their unkempt area.  Finally, establish how they will be rewarded for a job well done.

Like any skill, learning to delegate is a lot like strengthening a muscle. Initially, it may be painful to consistently apply these principles. But, stick with them. Over time, you’ll notice that delegation becomes much easier and eventually your plate won’t be quite so full.