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How your confidence level affects your health

Taking things personally can make you feel terrible

by Sharon Melnick  |  578 views  |  0 comments  |       Rate this now! 

If a good number of your 60,000 thoughts a day are spent in emotional states that are stressful, it can tilt your physiology towards stress related symptoms and disease.

When you have a doubt about yourself, it sets you up to seek other people’s approval and care more about whether they give you validation or not. It will make you feel less in control of your own destiny and feel disappointed or angry at how other people treat you. It also sets you up to look for information that will help you determine whether you are good enough or not. That’s why you take things personally and may end up feeling bad about yourself.

These kinds of emotional states of shame, fear, and guilt are associated with low levels of energetic vibration in your body.Emotions have a physiological pattern to them. We even talk about some of the outward consequences of them - e.g., blood flow makes you you go “white as a sheet” or “turn beet red.” Energy medicine practitioners educate us that emotions are associated with excesses or blockages of certain body organs, e.g., anger affects the liver, grief issues can be expressed through problems in the kidneys.

People who are confident and empowered more often feel blessed with what they have, and they have constructive responses to problems that circumvent the negative emotions. To work on stress related symptoms and prevent or empower yourself to deal with chronic health conditions,you can be more intentional about making your thoughts more confident.

1.) Engage in intentional relaxation exercises. Do things that bring you more in touch with the sensations in your body (e.g., aromatherapy with essential oils, stretching, exercise, yoga or martial arts, playing a musical instrument, etc.)

2.) Be playful and engage in play (whether you have children or not) as an antidote to difficult emotional reactions.

3.) Use the resources of your body such as deeper and longer breathing and sound vibrations (healing chants) to make a harmonizing and counteracting physiological response to stress related emotions.

4.) Take steps to empower yourself vis a vis other people. Look for constructive solutions to situations rather than taking the blame yourself. Try giving the benefit of the doubt rather than viewing others behavior as out to get you. Put your energy into improving your life rather than into worrying about how other people are thinking and acting.

5.) See this New York Times on meditation as a catch and release form of dealing with negative emotions.

About the Author

Sharon Melnick, Ph.D. helps 'talented and successful people get out of their own way',FAST! Informed by 10 years as a researcher at Harvard Medical School, she teaches businesspeople to achieve double to triple digit business growth and career promotions within a year, as well as the ability to make the right choices for a fulfilled life.

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