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"Having it all" isn't "all that"

Have less, be happier

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I loved reading this article. I am the one who gets anxious every month around the time when my younger one gets sick and ends up taking antibiotics. I can see it coming and I get worked up. I am gradually learning to calm down and this article helps.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Lakshmi on 12th June 2009
umm, yeah. It's simply not possible to be super terrific at work and super terrific at home. And we need to learn how to give ourselves a break because the whole martyr-complex routine is not an attractive look this season. This whole balance thing is hugely challenging, especially when your husband says stupid things like, "you know, being a working dad is really hard too." Let me think about that for a second. I do drop off and pick up for both kids. I get up with them in the middle of the night. I make most of their meals. I take care of them when they are sick. I take them to the doctor. I miss work to get them better. What does he do? Oh, right. He makes lunch. For one of them. Three times a week. Sure sounds equitable to me!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kami Lewis Levin on 8th June 2009
Dear Divine - loved the article. As I say all the time "you can have it all, just not all at once" - it's about saying no at certain times, taking shortcuts and loving them vs. feeling guilty and knowing what is important in life. Then balancing doesn't seem like a chore, but instead feels natural. For me it is about simple tips and principles. I tried to share them in my book "millennium mom"...while not every working mom will buy into all of them, I think they are simple tips you can start doing tomorrow to make having it all a little easier, if that is the path you choose to go down (or at least try to go down). Thanks again for the article and indulging me.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Joanna Zucker on 19th March 2009