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For the ultimate in feminine pampering, I've always loved bubble baths. How about you make yourself a bubble bath, light the bathroom with candles, bring in a glass of wine, and just luxuriate in your lovely, powerful, womanly body? It may be squooshy, it may smell of sour milk -- but it just made a whole entire other human being! You don't get much more powerful than that! If you let the husband know this is about regaining your sex drive, he'll be more than happy to play with that baby for an hour while you soak! (If he's not, he doesn't deserve sex. Nyah.)

... a massage. Turn down the lights, warm up the oil, and give your husband a 10-minute massage, and then have him return the favour.

... surprise him by joining him in the shower one morning. Again, you don't have to have sex, but there are few things more sensual than sliding your soap-slicked body against his.

... watch a romantic/sexy movie together. No, I don't mean porn! I once rented "Chocolat", and bought a box of half-a-dozen quality chocolate truffles. We popped the movie in the player, and every ten minutes or so, one of us would feed a truffle to the other. Licking the melted chocolate off your sweetie's fingers is veeery erotic. (Hmmm. I think we need to do something like this again!!)

... whenever you're in the kitchen together, make sure you bump up against him a little more than is strictly necessary!

... watch your goodbye kisses. A peck on the lips or the cheek is INADEQUATE. My husband and I have been together over ten years, and we never let those kisses last less than 5 - 10 seconds. Six seconds is only six seconds out of your life, but the different between a half-second kiss and a six second kiss is HUGE.

... send him affectionate/flirty/sexy emails now and then.

You do any of these that appeals. You don't do all of them in one day! If you view them as treats you're doing for your womanly self, you'll enjoy them all, and you'll both also enjoy the steady return of that flame within you.