9.) Throw us a bone once in awhile. Last year, a parent saw a staff birthday list and figured out I’d be celebrating a birthday on a workday. She organized a card for my students to sign and sent a cake. It was such a pleasant surprise and made my birthday so special. While you don’t have to be so extravagant (I have a special relationship with this child’s family), you can do little things to help, too. It’s Christmas? Send in a $5 Starbucks card. We came to your child’s soccer game? Thank us. We extended a deadline or stayed late to help your kid with a project? Say thank you. Send in a ream of paper. Bring Kleenex or hand sanitizer. Brag to our principal about something awesome you heard about or that your child enjoyed. Let us know that we’re making a difference for you and your student. That’s why we do what we do. (Oh, and don’t send in anything shaped like an apple or bearing a “#1 TEACHER!” inscription. Believe me: we’ve got a lot of it.)
10.) Really, really, REALLY hate us and think we’re ruining your child’s life? You have two choices here. First, if you have a good reason, most schools will honor a request for a change of class. If that’s what you choose to do, fine. It’s your right as a parent. But before you do, I’d encourage you to work with your child. As adults, we all work with people we don’t like from time to time. We’ve all had nasty bosses we wished we didn’t have to deal with. As grown-ups, unless you quit every job when there is resistance or someone you dislike, you’re gonna have to stick it out. Encourage your child to find things they do like about our class, even if they’re small things. Help your child learn to do homework our way, or to be more organized -- whatever it is that will make our year together more bearable for all involved.







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I was pulled out of English during that time more than once to "talk" with my guidance counselor about it. I was firm. Calm, but firm. Finally they found space for me in the full class (I had the teacher for a different subject and based on my work there over the month he was fine with having me in his English class as well). And I moved without incident. But no way was I voulntarily repeating a horrible experience and no way my child will either.
Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mich on 15th September 2010
Flag as inappropriate Posted by NYCMOM1 on 11th September 2010
Flag as inappropriate Posted by ruthanne on 24th May 2010
This past year my daughter actually had a teacher who openly disliked her, it was clear to ANYONE who talked to the teacher how she really felt about my kid. But this year she can learn the lesson about some people, no matter what you do, won't like you but you have to deal sometimes.
BUT, if she had a teacher like that in 7th grade I'd yank her, even if it meant taking a sabattical and home schooling because in our city, a bad 7th grade means you don't get into a good high school. So we couldn't have that "suck up and deal" mentality then.
Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mich on 28th July 2009