Comments on: I cover up my working mom guilt with cooking, what about you?

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Mon, 23 Jun 2008 01:33:55 +0000

[...] come back. I’ve been known to cook at all hours of the night (if you’re wondering why, read this), so I am feeling proud of myself for doing it ahead of time. Aside from that I am not sure what [...]

By: Jan - queenofkaos

Jan - queenofkaos — Fri, 16 May 2008 11:11:06 +0000

I don’t find this odd. You have identified a priority and sticking to it, I think it’s very admirable.

That said, it’s an eye opening observation as you have just made me realize that my biggest payout for having meals on the table and keeping the house in order is exactly that - it does relieve mom guilt.

Funny, I never realized it before, although the bottom line is that as moms, if the basics such as healthy meals and taking care of the home aren’t looked after, we should feel guilt (not that we need to be Martha, but it’s easy these days to get caught up in other stuff and forget the basics, been there, done that)

By: Robyn

Robyn — Tue, 13 May 2008 19:33:19 +0000

I cook dinner every night. For me it’s not about the mommy guilt - its about spending quality time together around the table. There are days when we eat scrambled eggs and toast for dinner - but it is homemade, healthy enough, and we are all together.

I used to pride myself on doing it all - cooking, cleaning, laundry, drop-offs and pick-ups, plus working. It was WAY to much. So now we have a weekly housekeeper who keeps the house in order, I’ve enlisted help with family for daycare pick-ups, and we all pitch in for the laundry.

Cooking for me is a stress reducer. It helps calm me in the evening - even when I appear stressed about getting dinner on the table. I’ve learned to mealplan for the week, make faster meals on nights I’m in the office and save my casseroles for days I’m working from home.

By: Florinda

Florinda — Tue, 13 May 2008 19:24:25 +0000

I think I really get this. For me, it’s both cleaning and cooking :-). Well, it’s cooking for the nights when the kids are with us, anyway. Our schedule isn’t really conducive to cooking-right-before-eating most nights either, so I try to prepare at least part of the meal ahead of time; if my husband gets home with the kids before I do, he can get it started.

But on the nights when the kids are with their mom, I really don’t worry about cooking for just my husband and me - so that tells me it’s definitely a “mom” thing.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:17:42 +0000

i think that sounds totally rational! this is why i dont obsess about cleaning. i rationalize that i am spending precious quality time with my son and husband! Though it also backfires and then i and up in i-can’t-take-it-anymore-this-house-is-a-mess-and-must-be-cleaned-up-righ- now mode. But at least that freak out just teaches everyone how to keep things neater and not as dirty during the inbetween periods. or so i rationalize.
we all have some guilt that we can’t be everywhere at once! i am just not up for all the crazy cooking so i buy organic ‘healthy’ packaged foods for the family. they like it and i feel less guilty for not cooking. haha!