We haven’t had a guest blogger here for a while, so it’s time. Today’s guest post is by Vera Babayeva, an active member of the Work It, Mom! community, budding entrepreneur, full time insurance claims specialist, and an amateur writer.

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My mother worries about me, a lot. This is how she describes me to family and friends, “my daughter has a full time job and plus she does a lot of crazy things.” The “crazy things” she is referring to are the various part time businesses I had within the past three years and my most recent business, www.womencanhaveitall.com.

She worries that I wear myself out, overwhelm myself unnecessarily, and don’t give enough attention to my hubby and kids. She worries that the “crazy things” I do are not worth what I may be giving up. She worries that I will end up divorced because I am so driven. She is proud of me and at the same time she is afraid and feels the need to tell me that, “I need to remember that I am a woman.”

That’s when my blood boils. “What’s your definition of a ‘woman?’ Does being a woman mean I have to keep my mouth shut, and only push my hubby to do what he wants and my kids and forget of my own existence. That’s what being a women is? Sacrificing yourself for everyone else and never thinking about yourself. I refuse.” I respond.

After such response I see her smiling with pride on the inside but she tries not to show it on her face. She still worries and says that I should be careful and not forget that I am a mom and a wife too.

Don’t worry mom. I very well realize the different roles I play. Being a mom and a wife is equally important to me as being myself. That’s what keeps me happy and makes me a better mom and wife. Some days I slow down, when the kids are sick or whatever else I have to deal with as a wife and mother. But the days I am going strong and pursuing my “crazy things,” are the days you should worry the least because it means that the family is doing well, allowing me to think more about myself. I love you mom and thank you for your worries.

What about you? What do you do to make your mom worry?