Comments on: Lying about purchases to your spouse? I don’t get it.

By: Ellen Hart

Ellen Hart — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 20:32:58 +0000

I’m actually surprised the number is not higher than 1 in 5. I’ve met a handful of folks who hide entire credit cards or bank accounts. Sad!

By: jessica

jessica — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 05:37:52 +0000

I think its better for the woman to manege the money were more responisible and mature i mean theirs some men that can do it but its bearly any

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 17:52:11 +0000

I pay all the bills and do the shopping. We have a joint account and both have access to it. I do eveything online and keep track of our finances on my computer - to which he could access at any time. I don’t get the lying thing either. I sometimes feel guilty when I purchase something for myself but hubby assures me it’s okay. I think that ’s a Mom thing - feeling like purchases for yourself are not needed. He sometimes buys a little more than was on “the list” when he goes to the store, but most times a “please stick to the list” and a pat on the butt before he leaves cures that. Hahaha!!

By: Vera Babayeva

Vera Babayeva — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 02:37:05 +0000

I have been married for seven years now and a year ago I finally decided to only have joint accounts and combine all our money and investments. Except for the 401k, his name is not on it but he is the beneficiary. I was hesitant about combining money at first because of all the horror stories I heard. But then after living together so long, we build a strong relationship and trust each other. I am well aware of my husbands income and all the expenses he incurs. I pay all the bills and review all his credit card bills.
Sometimes I will lie about the cost of the shoes or a dress that I bought. If I bought shoes for $90 I will say it was only $50.
My husband is well aware about our money and sometimes will ask me to confirm.

By: MariaVictoria

MariaVictoria — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:56:32 +0000

My husband does the finances because I prefer not to. I handle money matters and numbers at work so I want to take a break from all that at home. However, he keeps me informed about what’s going on and I keep myself informed! I can always check our joint accounts. We do online banking and I have the passwords and can log in anytime I want. We also keep our monthly budget on a spreadsheet which we can both update and balance to our accounts, and which we can both check and verify. It’s very hard to keep anything secret even if we want to. In fact, we try to buy each other’s presents with cash so we don’t accidentally find out what we’re getting by looking at on-line records of purchases and merchants. But other than that, we talk about our finances especially major purchases! I don’t get lying about them. To us marriage is a partnership and that includes jointly taking care of our fianancial well-being. How can you “embezzle” from your own spouse and hurt your own finances?

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:33:16 +0000

My husband used to lie to me about purchases, mostly because he thought I would get mad at him for buying things that he didn’t need. I am all for splurging, as long as we have the money. Now, we both know about our money situation equally and it’s really helped our finances. We both know how much money we have to spend and how much we’re saving, so it makes us both feel good.

By: Catutes

Catutes — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:14:31 +0000

Hate to admit it but the bulk of the financial juggling I leave to my husband. It’s not that I’m not capable, I juggle mutli-million dollar accounts at work, it’s just that he enjoys it more than I do. He keeps me well informed and asks my opinion on most things.If I don’t know something, it’s on my shoulders. I do pay bills and participate but not as much as he would like. He tried to pull my attention into the investment area and get me more in tune with our holdings.
We’ve always had shared accounts and neither one of us makes purchases over $100 without checking it with each other. Except for grocery shopping, that is!