One day when I have a bit of extra cash lying around I am going to commission a study about all the things women are doing right at work. For now, we have yet another bit of research to suggest that we’re sometimes our own enemies when it comes to breaking the glass ceiling.

The study, which has now been published in a book called The Psychology of Sales Reluctance, was conducted by Shannon Goodson, a behavioral scientist who compared 11,000 professional women with 16,000 professional men from 34 countries. Goodson found that women are significantly less likely than men to tout their achievements and contributions at work and believe that self-promotion is “socially unacceptable”, “unlady-like” and “morally suspect”. Read the rest of this entry »

As of today, my daughter is away with my parents for 10 whole days, splashing at the beach, watching too many cartoons and eating endless “mommy doesn’t let me eat this at home” treats. Heaven for her and, dare I say this, a bit of heaven for me and my husband.

You see, I have tons of working mom guilt. I’ve tried to battle it, fight it, ignore it, rationalize it, but it’s sill there, especially when my work takes me away from my daughter overnight, say on business trips (I know I am not alone in this). When my parents took her for two weeks last year, I felt incredibly guilty, the entire time. And as we were getting ready for her trip to the beach this year, I kept waiting for the guilt to kick in.

But it didn’t. Read the rest of this entry »

If you want to be happier be thankful for things you have in your life more often.

That is the basic message in Thanks!, a book by Robert Emmons, a professor at UC-Davis who studies the field of positive psychology. I browsed through the book the other day at Barnes & Noble, after reading something about it in a magazine (if you are thinking I am going to be a good blogger and link to the article, you’re wrong — it was in some doctor’s waiting room and I couldn’t even tell you the title.)

This seems like a very simple concept but I know I don’t practice it enough. When I do, it works. Read the rest of this entry »

I make fun of my husband because on some days it takes him longer to do his hair than it takes me to work in some gel into mine. My morning get-ready routine is optimized to be as efficient as possible and in total takes about 15 minutes, including shower, makeup, hair and getting dressed. If I could make it shorter, I would — I see it as a chore that takes up valuable time.

It turns out that I am not alone in that. Read the rest of this entry »

I never hide the fact that I love to work and I am extremely passionate about what I am doing right now. But you know, work is work, and sometimes it’s tough to get through my long workday. So over time I’ve found a few ways to make my workdays a bit more pleasant and thought I’d share them here:

1. Start each day by doing something that energizes you. In an ideal world, I’d work out in the morning, before work. Read the rest of this entry »

According to a new study out of Cambridge University, 62 percent of Americans say yes, up from 49% who thought so in 1994. In Britain, 54% of women and 58% of men believe that when a mom works it has a negative impact on family life.

My initial reaction was to get upset, naturally, that so many people feel this way. I then thought about our family life and started to get upset thinking that crap, this is probably true. Read the rest of this entry »

A few weeks ago I got a strange message on our home phone about some huge balance I owe for my Sprint phone. I ignored it because well, I don’t have a Sprint phone. You’d think hearing something like this would raise a red flag but no, I just assumed they had the wrong person.

Then a week ago they called back. “They” is a billing company that works with Sprint to collect payment from people who are overdue on their bills. After I nicely explained to the lady on the phone that I don’t have a Sprint phone she asked me what my social security number was. I told her and she said yes, that’s the social security number that was used to buy this phone and monthly calling plan. It had my name on it, my phone number, and an address in a totally different part of the country. Now the red flag was raised. Read the rest of this entry »

Today’s guest post is written by Ally Loprete, an active Work It, Mom! member and founder of Ourmilkmoney.com, a directory of self-employed parents who offer products and services in your community. When I read about Ally’s experience I knew I wanted to provide a way for her to share it with you. I think every busy working mom I know can learn something from what Ally learned, whether you run your own business or not, work full-time or part time, in an office or at home. I invite you to share your reactions in the comments.

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Yes, I was there. I was horribly embarrassed at first, but I’ve now come to appreciate the experience as one of my most favorite journeys.

What brought me to the nuthouse was a breakdown resulting from extreme exhaustion. I’d simply forgotten to take care of myself. I had not slept since 2007. I had lost a pregnancy, I wasn’t eating, my son and my husband were being neglected, and there was no end in sight. Read the rest of this entry »

I definitely lived under a rock last week because only yesterday did I read all about John Edwards’ affair. Another one bites the dust, unfortunately. As I was reading about it, my first thought was about his poor wife but my second thought was about work-life balance and finding time to have affairs. (Yes, my mind is slightly warped, didn’t you know?) Read the rest of this entry »

There is an interesting article over at Babble about a new, apparently growing group (I have nothing to back up this claim, it is from the article) of well-educated, married women who are choosing to stay at home and NOT having kids. They pursue their interests, passions, creative outlets, or just focus on managing everything about their household life. According to one researcher mentioned in the article, these women are the new status symbol for their husbands because “their lifestyle alerts the rest of the world that the husband makes enough money for the both of them.” Read the rest of this entry »