

The 36-Hour Day
with Lylah M. Alphonse
I'm a full-time editor, a part-time writer, and a mom and stepmom to five amazing kids, ages 1 to 14. For me it's not about finding balance, it's about the daily juggle-- my career, my commute, freelance work, homework, housework, married life, social life, and parenting-- and finding the time to get it all done.
To learn more about Lylah, check out her Work It, Mom! profile and read her blog at writeeditrepeat.blogspot.com.
What career advice would you give your younger self?
Categories: Career, The Juggle, Working? Living?
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, mostly about my career. I started working as a journalist when I was 16 — I mean working for pay, as opposed to on the school paper or something — and I pursued my career goals with a single-mindedness that surprises me today, in retrospect.
I didn’t really have a mentor, 15 or 20 years ago. I could have used one — as a young woman, as a woman of color, as a journalist, as a professional. I could have used a primer on office politics (who couldn’t?), some guidance on setting goals, a reminder that work-life balance is important even when the only think on the “life” side of the equation is yourself.
What career advice would I give to myself, 20 years ago?
1.) Travel more. Not just on vacation — though I would definitely advise my 20something self to do that, too, before she saddled herself with a mortgage. Travel for conferences, volunteer for off-site assignments, just get out of the building and see what else is out there. I haven’t spent my entire life in one state, or even one country. But I definitely wish I had seen more of the world instead of spending so much time in the office.
2.) Network more. Hanging out with the music critics was fun, but attending meetings for various journalistic associations would have been fun — and smart, too.
3.) Don’t work during your downtime. I rarely took all of the vacation time to which I was entitled. I should have. The office runs just fine when I’m not there.
4.) Set new goals constantly. They don’t have to be work-related, either.
5.) Don’t be so afraid of failure. Sure, there’s a price to pay for not doing things perfectly right off the bat. But it can be one of the best way to learn something, to push your boundaries, to set new goals.
What career advice would you give to your younger self?
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I think I’d tell myself to follow my passion, not the money. Money is great, but if you are passionate about what you do, then you’re happier and in the long run, it affects the bottom line. If you’re bored and dissatisfied with your career choice, you’re unhappy in every area of your life and you’re less productive in your career.
Suzanne Shaffer | June 15th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
I would say, Don’t stress about it so much. Now that I’m in my late 30s, I can see that things always work out, and that there is no “One Right Way” to career success/achievement, despite what many people would have you believe.
Shannon | June 15th, 2009 at 4:51 pm
I would also advise myself to travel more. It was so much easier (and cheaper) to travel when I was a party of one. I would have loved to travel in France to really solidify my French, so I could truly be bi-lingual.
I would have started college earlier (took a few years off after high school) and stayed in longer, maybe get a degree in something creative like graphic arts.
I would have partied a little less. Yes, I had a lot of fun, but I don’t have much to show for my 20’s except some great pictures that I never want my daughter to see!
Kit Basler | June 15th, 2009 at 5:26 pm