

The 36-Hour Day
with Lylah M. Alphonse
I'm a full-time editor, a part-time writer, and a mom and stepmom to five amazing kids, ages 1 to 14. For me it's not about finding balance, it's about the daily juggle-- my career, my commute, freelance work, homework, housework, married life, social life, and parenting-- and finding the time to get it all done.
To learn more about Lylah, check out her Work It, Mom! profile and read her blog at writeeditrepeat.blogspot.com.
The other night, I was faced with a kitchen-full of dirty dishes. And pots. And pans. At midnight.
I was already tired. I had been up late working, and I’d gotten up early, too, thanks to my 2 1/2-year-old alarm clock of a son who wakes at 5:30 a.m. (and who obviously didn’t read my post about how I prefer to stay up late rather than get up early). But the kitchen was a wreck, it’s hot and humid outside and, as such, bug season, and call me crazy, but I cannot stand having anything with more than two legs in the kitchen, and that includes the dog.
Our big kids have very few chores when they’re with us. Everyone has to keep their room relatively neat — clothes off the floor, beds straightened if not made, books on the shelves instead of on random horizontal surfaces. They all help with the folding of the laundry, in theory at least. The oldest two — both teenage girls — are in charge of emptying and loading the dishwasher (which, with a seven-member household, is running once, oftentimes twice, a day); our tween boy is in charge of clearing the table; the littlest two delight in setting it (usually with a haphazard collection of cutlery, but hey, they’re learning).
I could see what lead to the disaster in the kitchen — the dishwasher was running when the kids went to bed, so the teenagers couldn’t do their loading and unloading. My husband had cooked, bless him, and dinner was delicious, but there were dirty pots and utensils everywhere. In spite of my well-documented tendency to clutter, I hate having a dirty kitchen, and can’t go to bed with dishes in the sink — if I do, I have to wash them all up first thing in the morning. There was no way I was going to face this mess at 5:30 a.m. with a toddler attached to my leg. Which left me with two options: Wake the girls, or clean it all up myself. Which means, really, I was left with only one option.
I surveyed the kitchen again. No way I could go to bed with it looking like this. I’d have to do it.
I expected it to take at least 45 minutes. I grumbled. I grouched. I finished my glass of wine. I checked my email.
I got to work.
And you know what? It took me less time to unload the dishwasher, reload it with dirty dishes, and do all the pots and pans by hand than it did to write this post. Fifteen minutes, from chaos to completion — 20, if you count the fact that I went a bit overboard and wiped down the countertops and stove.
Which made me wonder: How many other horrible, involved, messy projects have I procrastinated over or avoided, when just rolling up my sleeves and getting to work would have taken less time?
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Lylah - I could have written this post on any given night. I absolutely cannot relax or sleep if there are dirty dishes or kitchen surfaces. We don’t use our dishwasher (we’ve been told it doesn’t work, but never tested the theory and we’re removing it to put in a bank of drawers anyway) but then, we don’t have a large family either.
Nevertheless, I laughed. I’ve been grumbling at that sink, with a glass of wine, on many a late night wondering why the hell I was still up. Thanks for this. Once again, it’s so nice to know I’m not alone.
Phe | July 27th, 2009 at 7:31 am
My favorite topic
I agree that getting to work on things one at a time (rather than planning to do it together or later) adds up really. After I gave up my house cleaning service few months back, my house actually looks better. When I had the service I cared less about regular upkeep and put off things for them to handle(to make my money’s worth!!). But now I do it on a day to day basis.
Lakshmi | July 27th, 2009 at 9:38 am
What works well for me when I have more to do than I want to think about - commit to doing it for 15 minutes. I almost always either finish the task or make enough progress that I’m motivated to keep going. I admit, though, that I am the queen of procrastination.
a mom | July 27th, 2009 at 3:17 pm
You just inspired me to go clean my kitchen, something I don’t generally feel compelled to do. I know I am happier when it gets done.
Aimers | July 28th, 2009 at 12:35 am
oh this is so true. so true.
vera babayeva | July 29th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
probably good advice even for the well rested. thanks. though I don’t think it is 15 minute job with kids awake.
Stefan | August 12th, 2009 at 10:53 pm