As long as the important bits are covered, I’m OK, I think

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A confession: I am fashion challenged.

I love dressing up in ridiculously fancy clothing, things like saris and little black dresses, things I have absolutely no reason to wear anywhere right now. I am most comfortable in jeans and a big button-down shirt. I like things that are tailored, but my body, after creating and nurturing two children, is neither in shape nor in the same shape it used to be. Once upon a time I used to wear adorable, short, flirty dresses when I went out with my friends; now, I wear yoga pants and knit shirts from Target while I tuck my kids into bed.

My husband was once named one of Boston’s best-dressed men. My utter lack of fashion sense drives him crazy. Not in a good way.


Me: A little black dress with a tiny diamond pendant, a little black dress with a huge statement necklace, and a little black dress with no necklace and just long dangly earings is three different outfits!

Him: No, it’s just the same little black dress. A little black dress with a blazer is an outfit for work, a little black dress with a shawl is an outfit for a night at the theater, and a little black dress over skinny jeans is an outfit for clubbing.

Me: Oh.

Just as I tend to want to paint all of the walls in my house white and accessorize with artwork, I tend to want to wear very basic, very neutral clothing, and accessorize with jewelry. I love jewelry. It’s what’s handed down from mother to daughter in my family. It always fits, no matter what kind of shape your body is in. And while trends come and go, certain pieces are timeless, and I know I don’t have to follow what’s in style in order to look semi stylish.

For the most part, though, I just don’t get it. How can pencil skirts and full, poufy skirts be “in” at the same time? What are you supposed to do if that trendy top looks great with Bs but you’ve got Ds, so to speak? What’s the point of a cropped trench coat? How can a pair of jeans cost more than $200?

I’m happiest wearing clothes that fit my body well, ones I don’t have to replace from year to year because, frankly, my budget just can’t handle that right now. And I’m sure I’m not alone.

Ladies, what’s your favorite, timeless, go-to piece in your wardrobe? Are you a fashionista, a frugalista, or an I-don’t-care-as-long-as-the-important-bits-are-all-covered-ista?

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  • I am a frugalista. I only have a handful of suits and they were all purchased at discounts of at least 50%. The one I love most is a two-piece set. The skirt is pleated, black/cream paisley, length below the knees, waist elastic. The top is like a waist-length black jacket but the feminine collar and buttons are of paisley material matching the skirt. This outfit is good for “nice business casual” (what women usually need to wear to a “business casual” event), “business dress,” and many non-business events. The long pleated skirt is comfortable and carefree (I wear knee-highs with it). Both pieces are of thin fabric so they are cool enough for summer / warm locations. Love it and I really wish it could last forever.

    SKL  |  April 5th, 2010 at 3:47 am

  • I am a frugalista tending towards a fashionista. I really would not know the difference between two styles. As long as they look good and fit me well, I am all for it. I do beleive in accessorising. But a freind of mine- a true fashionista keeps getting me to a reality check: “Take care of yourself” not just body, but clothes as well. Dressing better, makes me feel better. At the same time, being in my cozy comfort clothes makes me feel - comfortable. Dress for yourself but also always have the one timeless peice: For me, its my Drop Necklace, a cute dress, and shoes!!!

    Why you need a Fashion Forward freind:

    What Shoes does to us:

    GNSD  |  April 5th, 2010 at 10:56 am

  • I am an ex-fashionista who is now a momanista. I try mixing trendy designs w/ my classic favorites for work. I own a pair of black ankle booties that I will pair w/ tights and a black wrap dress. I generally wear well tailored slacks to work and pair them with great sweaters, shoes and amazing handbags! I love looking polished from head to toe.

    As an ex-fashionista I have done quite well with modifying my wardrobe as I no longer have my single-gal salary to waste on couture clothing. Today I spend a little extra time shopping sales and consignment stores to get my classic polished look.

    My favorite items are two pair of great slacks, a great pair of dark denim jeans. A khaki knee-length trench coat, a black trench, black dress, scarf, triple strand of pearls and three great handbags that I rotate during the week that offer comfort, organization and a bit of glam.

    This takes a ton of creativity, research and a little time and thought but it makes me feel a lot better as a woman to invest that time in me. I know I may not dress like I used to and maybe I don’t want to. My style today reflects who I am in my career, and my personal life. For a woman who has married, given birth to three children has worked since she was 16 and who runs and cleans a 5 bedroom home I am during pretty darn good these days!

    Tina  |  April 5th, 2010 at 12:38 pm

  • Green moleskin just-below-the-knee skirt that looks smark with a silk blazer for business lunch or with boots & cute top for evening out.
    Full length trench to cover whatever outfit smartly.
    I have a few suits, all purchased on sale but rarely wear them as they are frowned upon in my industry (we need to show creativity in your business wear or are labeled “too dressed up”).
    Full length black column skirt. Pair with sweaters or black blazer.
    Shoes are the hardest for me. Most pumps make my size 12 feet look even larger so I will pay full price for a pair of shoes that makes my feet look smaller without pinching them to do so!

    Mich  |  April 5th, 2010 at 3:21 pm

  • I-don’t-care-as-long-as-the-important-bits-are-all-covered-ista — that one!

    At least you change your jewelry with an outfit. I forget to wear it all together. My go-to dress piece in my closet: a navy sweater dress for winter and a navy blue sleeveless dress with a fuller skirt for summer. Fuller means I can still wear it if I gain a few pounds. LOL

    Julies  |  April 8th, 2010 at 12:50 am