

The 36-Hour Day
with Lylah M. Alphonse
I'm a full-time editor, a part-time writer, and a mom and stepmom to five amazing kids, ages 1 to 14. For me it's not about finding balance, it's about the daily juggle-- my career, my commute, freelance work, homework, housework, married life, social life, and parenting-- and finding the time to get it all done.
To learn more about Lylah, check out her Work It, Mom! profile and read her blog at writeeditrepeat.blogspot.com.
October is breast cancer awareness month, and there are pink ribbons everywhere — on rubber gloves for washing dishes, on yogurt containers, even on the bottoms of cleats worn during football games. All of it is an effort to raise awareness for something about which most people are all too aware. And most of it boils down to companies jumping on a pink bandwagon, making a few extra bucks off of breast cancer.
This year, I’m not buying any of it, if I can help it.
In an article in The Boston Globe Magazine last year, writer Kris Frieswick pointed out that a pink ribbon is easier to look at than what really is a pretty awful disease. But what’s more galling is that the little swatch of rose-colored fabric often also hides a lot of corporate greed: Companies can say they’re raising money for research, but they can also limit their donations and pocket the profits on sales of beribboned merchandise. And pink ribbons turn up on the oddest of things, from office products to snack foods to clocks that proclaim “I love boobies.”
This year, instead of going out of my way to purchase pink, I’m going to send my money directly to organizations that fight cancer. Why? Susan Neibur, a.k.a. Why Mommy, sums it up nicely over at Toddler Planet. She writes:
If the pink labeled cookies cost 50 cents more than the regular ones, and the company only donates 5 cents per box, stop, think, and send the 50 cents (or more) to the cancer society of your choice when you get home. If the pink-labeled candy causes you to gain weight, stop, don’t buy it. Go for a walk instead, and nosh on carrot sticks for snack, reducing risk of obesity-related cancers. If the chicken place will donate a buck when you buy a bucket of fat- and grease-laden extra crispys, stop. Eat a 5 oz piece of grilled chicken at home, and use the buck to support a friend in a race for the cure.
Which makes a lot of sense — so much so, that I wonder why we deal with pink ribbons at all. Does wearing one allow us to show support while keeping an emotional distance? Does buying the pink version of stuff we buy anyway make us feel like we’re making a difference, even though we’re filling our pantries with the same products we always buy? Do those NFL players really care what color cleats they’re wearing — and do the fans watching the game do anything differently after seeing flashes of pink on the football field?
Do you go out of your way to buy pink-ribboned products? Why or why not?
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Thanks for this. I love the concept, but it has changed in recent years, hasn’t it?
I love that you’re sending the check directly, and you’re SURE that you’re supporting the fight against breast cancer.
Susan
Susan Niebur @WhyMommy | October 4th, 2010 at 8:27 am
I actually appreciated the flashes of pink on TV last night. As a woman, it was nice to see a bunch of men say “there is a woman in my life that matters to me, a woman I don’t want to lose.”
To have this much awareness for what is primarily a woman’s disease - in a country that still covers Viagra before birth control pills under most health insurance plans - is a big deal.
That being said? Yes - think before you pink.
Miss Britt | October 4th, 2010 at 8:39 am
I think it’s powerful to see such menly-type men wearing pink to spread the word; honor their mothers, wives, or sisters who have battled the disease or died from it. And it’s powerful for an organization with millions of fans to send such a message– donate, support, help fund research, etc. Fans notice. If they didn’t, nobody would be talking about it.
Nickie | October 4th, 2010 at 9:37 am
I generally avoid “gimmacks” including overpriced products, “walks,” guilt campaigns, etc. I am a strong believer in finding a cause, researching different charities, and substantively supporting the ones you believe will make a real difference. I would rather send $500 to one organization than $5 / $50 to various different ones.
That said, I do understand the point of visibility. However, there’s visibility and then there’s a fad. I think that the “pink” business has crossed over that line. The “boobies” thing - I mean, let’s get serious. Same thing with corporate “races” to be the biggest contributors. It may seem like any donation is better than no donation. But I believe that “charity” given with the wrong intent does more harm than good.
To draw attention, it might be more effective to come out with a completely different, unexpected message / delivery.
I might say more, but this site has been so slow lately. Any chance that it will be fixed soon?
SKL | October 4th, 2010 at 10:48 am
I check into it first. Example: I have hot pink highlights (well, technically they’re hot pink extensions that have been cut to length, not my real hair colored pink) right now. The local salon that did them is doing them all month, the salon owners are providing the materials, and the girls who are putting them in are not charging for their time. The deal is, you get them, you pay what you want, and 100% of the money they’ve gotten for the extensions goes to Susan G. Komen.
I did, however, like seeing the pink on TV yesterday. Awareness is always good. And lord knows that helped with awareness in our household (the men: “What’s up with the pink”. the women: “October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month”…)
CV | October 4th, 2010 at 11:08 am
I agree with what you said, and it isn’t limited to breast cancer, but all the ribbon and other campaigns. It is greed driven, and marketing. And the saddest part, I hate to say it, is that they probably make so much money off these marketing campaigns (because customers DO have their hearts in the right place, and they count on it), is that when their is a cure, for any kind of cancer, will it be released right away? Or will they milk it for a few more years… sounds cynical, but they’ve been collecting lots of money for many years now, and we all know how much these campaigns make. I don’t buy pink, unless is VERY cute and then it’s just because of the colour not the cause. I DO donate money to hospitals and proper funds, because, really, we need to help when we can.
(FYI, as I write this there is a bright pink add bar for Yoplait next to the comment box…there you go! )
Celeste | October 4th, 2010 at 12:44 pm
Lylah, thanks for sharing this. I’ve never really gone out of my way to ‘purchase pink’ (I actually hate pink…lol) but I’ve never thought much about where the companies are putting that money. I suppose it’s naive of me to assume that great big corporations will care as much about a given cause as I do… but I’d honestly not considered it.
Regarding the NFL’s pink gloves and cleats, Miss Britt put it beautifully: ‘There is a woman in my life that matters to me, a woman I don’t want to lose.” I’ve heard many players share about loved ones they’ve lost to breast cancer, or who are still fighting their battle, and I love seeing that shared on major networks during a time slot that is otherwise dominated by testosterone and male-driven advertising.
Rachel Heath | October 4th, 2010 at 1:48 pm
I can’t argue with awareness, but I can argue with companies making lots of bucks from what is sold as ‘charity’.
Meagan Francis | October 5th, 2010 at 11:19 am
I don’t by pink or any other ribbon color for any cause for precisely ther reasons you’ve stated.
There is more awareness on breast cancer than prostate or any other illness these days. It’s no less a worthy cause though and I support the Susan G Koment walk for cure’s Men With a Heart Team each year they walk.
My real fundraising torch however is raised for Alzheimer’s - a disease that killed my Oma, my great aunt, and is claiming my maternal grandmother and another great aunt. It’s also claiming the life of one of my favorite authors and he’s been very public with his battle.
I’m fortunate that I’ve never lost anyone to breast cancer or had anyone close to me even diagnosed with it. It is a killer, it is devastating, but it’s not alone in the world and certainly, it should not be exploited by corporate greed as it has been.
Phe | October 6th, 2010 at 12:12 pm
This is the first “pink” pitch I’ve received in 6 weeks that clearly states what perentage of the proceeds go to breast cancer charities, which charities get the money, and whether there’s a cap on the amount donated. So I’m willing to spread the word:
PUMA is donating 100 percent of all profits from their new Project Pink WPS clothing and accessories line to a breast cancer charity this October. Which charity? You get to help choose. Go to http://puma.promo.eprize.com/pink/gallery to vote for the charity you want; the winner will be announced in late October.
You can also help PUMA donate without buying anything. Tweet using the hash tag #projectpink once a day from now until October 18, and PUMA will donate an additional $1 to the Project Pink cause, up to $25,000. (One tweet with the hash tag, per Twitter handle, per day).
Lylah | October 7th, 2010 at 10:50 am
I’ve never gone out of my way to buy the pink ribbon stuff. I like certain yogurt so when it does pink lids I’m not going to stop buying it, I’ll send in those lids, but I would have bought it with or without pink lids.
Honestly, this has never been very personal for me. I kenw a few women who had breast cancer, but all were much older or were not very close to me. This year, this month a friend has announced, a my-age woman, one with no history in the family has early, aggressive, wholly devastating breast cancer.
So yeah, skipping that fried chicken and donating the cash makes even more sense.
Mich | October 8th, 2010 at 12:15 pm
I avoid anything pink ribbon at all costs, because the Komen Foundation, just like a majority of charities that claim to fund research for cures, is just anothr way of exploiting the public. Jerry Lewis started the trend by making a fortune with the MDA, but all of the other similar charities have followed suit, making the founders and/or CEOs millionaires; all on the premise that you donations make a difference. Personally, I only donate to local Food Banks and groups that give people in their community free clothes, toiletries, and whatever other basic need they may need.
Wendy Simmons | October 10th, 2010 at 8:57 am
I couldn’t agree more on that, give directly to charity institutions. And chances are, there are lots of it near you. These color stuffs, statement bands,shirts is just another way of marketing and at the end of the day it’s pure business.
Eunice | October 19th, 2010 at 1:01 pm