with Amy Urquhart
I’m Amy and I’ve spent the last three years trying to strike that perfect balance between being a wife, mom and professional career woman. I’ve decided that I’ll never perfect the art of “having it all”, but this blog is a chronicle of my attempts to continue to do so. I’m a blogger (my personal blog about Canadian home life is Hearts into Home), gardener, college instructor, wife to Graham and mom to Nate. If you’re also a working mom who finds there just aren’t enough hours in the day, I hope you’ll enjoy this column!
Read her blog at Hearts into Home.
My daughter was humming a tune that sounded a lot like “Bingo” while she was drawing the other day. When I scooted closer to her on the couch to get a peek at what she was doing, I heard that she had made up new words to go along with the song:
There was a girl who worked a lot
and Lylah was her name-o
L-Y-L-A-H, L-Y-L-A-H, L-Y-L-A-H
and Lylah was her name-o!
The drawing was actually an illustrated guide to the song’s new lyrics (spelled phonetically, of course—she’s only in kindergarten). I thought I was doing a pretty good job of getting out of work mode and morphing into Mama mode during the window between school pick-up and bedtime. But apparently not.
I do work a lot. My kids know that I love what I do, and they know that I try hard to be fully present when I’m with them, but they also know that I stay up late to get all my work done, even if they don’t see me at my desk because they’re already asleep.
Last weekend, I had to research a local travel story and brought them along, asking for their opinions and observations. I thought they would get a kick out of “helping Mama work.” And they did. But they also came away with the impression that, even when I’m out having fun with them, I’m still on the clock. That I am always working.
That’s not how I want them to think work is. How can I underscore the importance of working to live, not living to work, when my main work-life juggling trick is to do both at the same time?
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