with Amy Urquhart
I’m Amy and I’ve spent the last three years trying to strike that perfect balance between being a wife, mom and professional career woman. I’ve decided that I’ll never perfect the art of “having it all”, but this blog is a chronicle of my attempts to continue to do so. I’m a blogger (my personal blog about Canadian home life is Hearts into Home), gardener, college instructor, wife to Graham and mom to Nate. If you’re also a working mom who finds there just aren’t enough hours in the day, I hope you’ll enjoy this column!
Read her blog at Hearts into Home.
“I Don’t Know How She Does It,” the movie based on the best-selling book about working moms and the juggle they face, hits theaters tomorrow. And while I identify with the character and disagree with the ending (of the book, at least), I don’t really feel like seeing the movie. I’m kind of tired of the whole premise: Woman determined to “have it all” faces burn-out or failure until she chooses one part of her life over the other.
People routinely ask me how I do it. “How do you work full-time with so many kids?” “How do you get back to work once the kids are in bed?” “How do you keep it all together?” I have a few answers:
1. You do what you have to do. I’m the breadwinner for our family. Not working full-time is not an option for me (or so my mortgage company tells me).
2. It’s amazing what you can do if you don’t know you can’t do it. I’ve always worked a lot, even back in college when, instead of partying, I worked two jobs while carrying a larger-than-full-time course load.
3. Sometimes, I don’t really do it. I have an amazing support network of other working moms, and a hands-on husband who juggles as much as I do. Also: I let the housework slide. As I type this, there is a mountain of (clean) laundry in my bedroom that is large enough for my 4-year-old to climb. I throw a load into the washer every day, but I rarely get around to sorting, folding, and putting away more than once a week. My floors could use a vacuuming, though most of the rooms in my house have been fake-cleaned. I’m on deadline, though, and so the unpaid housework has to wait.
So. How do you do it?
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