with Amy Urquhart
I’m Amy and I’ve spent the last three years trying to strike that perfect balance between being a wife, mom and professional career woman. I’ve decided that I’ll never perfect the art of “having it all”, but this blog is a chronicle of my attempts to continue to do so. I’m a blogger (my personal blog about Canadian home life is Hearts into Home), gardener, college instructor, wife to Graham and mom to Nate. If you’re also a working mom who finds there just aren’t enough hours in the day, I hope you’ll enjoy this column!
Read her blog at Hearts into Home.
Chris Brogan recently featured a brilliant post written by online marketing strategist Tommy Walker about the 106 excuses that prevent you from ever becoming great. It’s an eye-opening read, because I’ve heard myself say some of them time and again, but hadn’t really thought of the way I was undermining myself with my own words. Words like these:
I don’t know the right people.
I don’t have the money.
I can’t afford to take a risk right now.
I don’t know where to begin.
I’ll get to it later.
I have too many things on my plate.
I don’t have time.
The post has 99 more, but those were the ones that really stood out for me. They’re completely valid excuses but, as Walker points out in the post, each and every one of them has a pretty simple solution. It’s just a matter of making yourself overcome your own obstacles.
“I don’t have the money” and “I don’t have time” play on a nearly constant loop in my head. They’re reinforced every time I put on my “primary breadwinner” hat and pay the bills, every time I look at my to-do list and try to figure out what I can put off for another day. I know that I’m willing to work hard and spend the time and money that I have on the people I care about, but I am reluctant to invest even half that time or money in myself.
To wit: I am interviewing first lady Michelle Obama and Dr. Jill Biden at the White House next week, and only just now, right this very minute, did it occur to me that maybe I should invest in something a little nicer to wear than the power suit I put on whenever I have to be on camera. But “I don’t have money for that,” was the first thing that popped into my head. And when I reminded myself of the gift certificates I had stashed away, my excuse changed to “I just don’t have time to go shopping.” And it’s true, I don’t. But in order to make a good impression at what’s probably a big career-boosting event, maybe I should make a little time instead.
What are the big excuses you use to stop yourself from doing things? How do you overcome them?
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