with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
Last February my husband and I brought our three kids to their grandparents’ house and spent a week in Mexico. Together. With no children. It was the first time we had both been away from them for longer than one night and amazing does not even begin to describe it. Towards the end of the week we talked about returning in a year or two with the kids and taking a family vacation in order to give us all a break from the long, cold winter.
Try as we might to find a good deal for the five of us to travel, we could not seem to do so. Even with a decent price, once you multiply it by five it gets to be in the “ridiculous” range. It seemed a little extravagant to spend that sum of money in light of the economy. My husband and I were open to taking another jaunt that consisted of just the two of us but there is that issue of three small children who needed to be, you know, taken care of in our absence.
We resigned ourselves to the fact that a vacation was not going to happen this year for the five of us, or even the two of us. Our winter has been long, dark, and cold and it was hard on me to give up the dream of a little sunshine to get me through until spring.
Two weekends ago a friend from Southern California (You may have heard of Sarah) told me to “Come to California, lady!” My husband saw her comment and told me that I should go. To California. By myself.
I was torn as I travel a few times a year for work and leave him at home with our three children. He told me that did not count as I am working. It is a break for me, yes, but it also pays the bills. I brought up the fact that I went to BlogHer last year and am all booked for the conference again this coming July. I seem to get away on my own a lot.
He told me that he knows how much I abhor winter and insisted that I go find a good flight deal and get myself to the sunshine. Less than a week later I was on the plane and headed for what turned out to be the best solo vacation of my life. I honestly do not think that those four days could have been any better than they were.
I have arrived home to my family recharged, refreshed, and ready to plow through until spring arrives. I am beyond happy to be reunited with my family, but I honestly think that I am going to be a better wife and mother to them thanks to my mini vacation. If you had told me such a few years ago I would have thought that a solo vacation, away from my family, would be something that I enjoyed so much I would have argued adamantly against that idea.
Turns out I was wrong about myself. That happens occasionally.
I had such a positive experience that I am encouraging my husband to get away as well. His idea of a good time is to spend a weekend snowmobiling (BRRRRRR) with his friends. While it is the opposite climate of what I personally prefer, I just want him to have a break and come back rejuvenated.
How about you? Have you taken (or would you take) a solo vacation, or do you only take vacations with your spouse/family?
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