Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
Nataly forwarded me an email from Working Mother magazine about the results from their sex survey.
And I quote:
New York City (February 9, 2009)—No headaches here! In a recent reader survey, published in the article “Hot Mama” in the February/March issue of Working Mother magazine, results found that working moms are way more into sex than anyone might think. In fact, the article reveals that while working moms wish they had more sex—and that it took less work to make it happen—sex still really matters to nearly three-quarters of respondents.
Working moms have spoken:
* More than half of respondents reported having sex at least once a week. Almost a third—29 percent—have sex two or more times a week.
* The majority of respondents—63 percent—say they want more sex on a regular basis.
* 93 percent remain attracted to their husbands at least some of the time, and only 7 percent confessed to having no attraction at all.
* 39 percent of respondents said that when they have sex, they’re usually in the mood and totally enjoy it. Whereas 44 percent said they’re usually not in the mood…and then totally enjoy it.
* Over 70 percent said that they use adult movies and sex toys, mainly to spice things up in the bedroom.
I showed the article to my husband over lunch yesterday and we talked about it. This is going to make my shy and reserved husband cringe a little, but we agreed with the results of the article.
We also discussed how our sex life is better than it ever has been. I am not sure if it is because we are out of the baby stage, or because he had a vasectomy (TMI?) and the fear of pregnancy is not nagging in the back of our minds, or if it because I am now in my thirties and that fabled “sexual peak” is actually coming true. Whatever the reason, we both like sex and have it often.
What? We are married. It is what married people do. Or should do.
How about you? Is your sex life good? Or is there room for improvement?
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dude I’m a newlywed - things are gooood
though I wish I could stop hyperventilating monthly when I think I’m pregnant (knock on wood … every month it’s a false alarm)
hillary | February 13th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
Yep, I’m a working mom and he’s a working dad and we get it on at LEAST once a week, more likely it’s 3-4 times. We went through a long, dry spell after M was born but in the last 6-7 months things have been great.
ikate | February 13th, 2009 at 2:37 pm
I am SO looking forward to the fear of pregnancy being gone. It’s totally a mood killer.
Mrs. Wilson | February 13th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
It’s alright. Granted, with our schedules and the way we have to take turns sleeping until our youngest goes to school full time this fall (WOOHOO!!) it’s usually a weekly thing that we’ve gotten use to. Hubby has already informed me that one of the main things he is looking forward to this coming fall is more “us” time…and I couldn’t agree more
Charity | February 14th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
Sex life here is great! At least every other week it is. I’m a single mother in a committed relationship, BUT, I only see my man regularly when it’s the kids week at their Dad’s.
I do think the kids being older helps considerably as well. I get way more sleep with a 6 and 10 year old then when they were babies.
Bella | April 30th, 2009 at 12:02 pm