with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
Most of my posts written here about my marriage are full of sunshine and daisies, puppies and unicorns. I happened to marry a man with whom I am highly compatible with. He is also so laid back that it is borderline ridiculous; if he had the same fiery personality that I do IT WOULD NOT BE PRETTY.
This is not to say that he is perfect. He can be a wee bit passive aggressive at times which makes my blood boil to a point where my face splits in two and my head spins in circles (Figuratively, not literally.) When he pulls the passive aggressive craptastic stunts I call him on it and we duke it out (Figuratively, not literally. Of course.)
He knows that he is doing it, and even after nine years together it still takes a day or two of me asking him to TELL ME WHAT IS WRONG ALREADY for him to speak his piece. We hash it out, hug it out, and move on. He is getting better at communicating and I am getting better at not riding his arse to JUST SPEAK ALREADY.
It works for us.
The one thing that he has still not learned is when to KNOCK IT OFF ALREADY iwhen it comes to the teasing. Teasing is a sign of affection. I get that. I can dish it out like none other, and grew up in a family that is all about the teasing. We tease because we love. Or something like that.
There are days, however, when I am not up for the teasing. These seem to be the days where he is ALL ABOUT THE TEASING. Seeing as how I am NOT passive aggressive, I will tell him outright that I am not up for the teasing. He should cut it out, lest he find himself with a fork in his eyeball.
For some reason he thinks I am kidding. Or he is deaf. Or he is just in that I WANT TO DRIVE YOU CRAZY mode.
He keeps at it, making barbs, giving me a hard time, MAKING ME NUTS. I keep telling him that I am not up for it, that I am sensitive that day, that he is walking on thin ice.
And yet, he persists. He thinks it is funny to push my buttons even though I have clearly stated that THIS IS NOT FUN. He keeps laughing, I keep getting grumpier and grumpier. It is all sorts of awesome.
This is not to say that I do not push his buttons. I just think that he does it more than I do. For I am a perfect wife who makes sure that she does not do anything to offend her husband more than he can bear. Riiiight.
How about you? Do you and your spouse do certain things to push each others’ buttons? Please dish.
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