with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
I am sure that you have heard about the untimely death of Natasha Richardson while she was skiing at a resort in Quebec. Due to an unforeseen accident her life is no more. This young, vivacious woman left behind a husband and children.
Nothing can get the tears rolling faster that the thought of something happening to my husband. While I encouraged him to go away with his friends on a snowmobiling trip, the fact that nineteen (NINETEEN) people have died this winter in the area that I live in (due to avalanches) made me a little fearful.
Truth be told, we have had the “Death Talk.” We have life insurance (Which we disrespectfully joke about cashing in on a weekly basis) and have talked about what would happen if one of us were to perish. We have given each other “permission” to find someone else in the case that we happened to be widowed. Which, well, is one of the weirdest conversations ever.
Hey! I love you more that life itself! But if I die, go find someone else to share your innermost thoughts with!
I hope that I am never in the position that I have to deal with the whole situation. In addition to loving my husband, I also like him. He makes me laugh, think and I am a better person for having him in my life. Anyone else that could possibly come into my life would have some very big shoes to fill.
That is, if I could ever get to a place where I would be open to the idea of another.
This past week we have brought up the topic again. As I mentioned above, we have life insurance but had set it up long before we had children. We think we may need to up the amount which means that we get to pee in a cup, give blood and all of that jazz.
After having friends and family chastise us for years we finally had a will drawn up last spring. We were leaving our kids with their grandparents while we jetted off to Mexico. The odds of dying in a car crash are far higher but it was that plane trip that jolted us into action. Making plans for your children after your demise is not the brightest of topics but better that we get it figured out ahead of time; I would hate for the government to decide the fate of my children.
As much as the topic of death is hardly fun, it is a necessary evil.
Have you and your spouse taken the steps to make it as easy on each other as possible?
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