Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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Back in the stone age when I didn’t have a blog I thought that people who met via online dating sites were a little, shall we say, weird. Now that I have fostered so many great friendships via the Internet I know that most people who hang out online are, in fact, weird. But the good, “kooky” weird as opposed to the “creeplor” weird. At least for the most part.
I came across this article yesterday which stated that due to the economy, people are looking for love to calm their fears. Apparently “Psychologists think that tough times heighten people’s need for love and companionship.”
The article also states that in addition to online dating sites, people are paying for the services of professional matchmakers. I think that if I were single I might steer clear of a matchmaker, if only because I thought that’s what friends were for.
How about you? Would you use a professional matchmaker?
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Call me old-fashioned, but I stll feel like if it’s meant to be, it will be. Besides, I don’t have time for all that with two tots. I don’t see myself off looking for my own emotional fulfillment for a very long time.
I don’t believe professional matchmakers can sense who has chemistry and who doesn’t. But people will try to make it work based on the matchmaker’s formula - especially after paying for it. Seems to me it would be a waste of time at best in most cases.
I do know a number of people who had “arranged marriages” and who met online and such. Their results range from abuse/divorce to happy marriage. Most are in between, in a sort of “I have to stick it out because divorce would be shameful” limbo. My single mom life is better than that.
SKL | April 17th, 2009 at 11:51 am
What do I know I’m weird. You know the “kooky” kind.
Emily Kerry | April 17th, 2009 at 5:41 pm
NO WAY! No one could know you better than your friends…I am a firm believer in the theory that love hides if you are actively looking for it and it sneaks up and bites you on the nose when you are just living your life to the fullest.
Now that said, I am with you, I used to think the internet for dating was for crazies…now, I would likely go that route if I was, you know, looking.
And also, I am so lucky to have met, by chance, my one and only.
Okay now my comment is as long as your article. Stopping. Now.
Kami | April 18th, 2009 at 4:19 pm
No, I wouldn’t use a professional matchmaker. It will happen if it is meant to happen. Guess I’m old-fashioned too!
Hannah | April 18th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
I don’t know that I’d ever go through a matchmaker. I’ve often wondered what kind of person I’d be “matched up” with - just for curiosity’s sake, but, um, don’t tell Noah. haha!
Mrs. Wilson | April 19th, 2009 at 9:19 am
Sure, I would. If I felt the need. I’m also not against a good, old-fashioned, parent-arranged date. That’s how I met my husband
My mom and his mom set us up. Who knows you better than your parents? Who wants your happiness more than they do? Ideally, I mean. I know some people don’t have parents who would make good matchmakers, but, sometimes, parents really do know what they are doing.
Robyn | April 20th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
Hmmmm. Matchmakers are way more “old fashioned” than trusting in fate. There have been professional matchmakers for thousands of years. Young people weren’t allowed to “date” or choose for themselves until quite recently in history. “If it’s meant to be” is a far newer idea. Not really old-fashioned at all.
Robyn | April 20th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
I probably would. I think it is better than trying via Internet. But right now I just couldn’t consider it in any form. I’ve enough on my plate without trying for romance too!
Mich | April 22nd, 2009 at 7:29 pm