with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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This past little while my husband and I have been guilty of…coasting. We have both been pulled in many directions with work, life commitments and kids that our relationship has taken the brunt of it. Nothing is wrong and we aren’t having any problems, but we have just been a little disconnected. Not physically (I’ll stop there), but emotionally.
By the time we survive the day, get the kids to bed and finish chores/work that needs to be done we are tired. If we aren’t quite ready to call it a night we will curl up on the couch and watch one of the many shows that have piled up on the PVR. While the cuddle time is nice, it is not exactly what I would call “quality time.”
Throw in the fact that we have been going way too many weeks between Date Nights and we haven’t been feeling very connected. Our ninth anniversary is tomorrow (Yay!) so in light of our anniversary we sat down this past weekend to think of ways to keep connected in the midst of our daily chaos.
1. “Date Night” does not have to be an all-evening affair. This past weekend we met some friends at a local winery for two hours and listened to live music. Yes, we were with other people, but it was nice to get away from the house and kids and just be.
2. Get “Date Night” out of the rut it is in. Our regular “date night” consists of the same general routine: A trip to Costco (Practical), followed by dinner out (Fun). This coming weekend we are going out and we’re not going to Costco. This is a big deal. Not only are we ditching Costco, we’re going to watch a movie. Like, in a theater and stuff. Matthew was given gift certificates to the movie theater (Complete with snacks!) for…wait for it…CHRISTMAS. We need to use those babies before they expire or something.
3. Doing something besides watching T.V. Instead of zoning out in front of the boob tube, having our nightly “fun time” and then trying to catch up on our day while drifting off to sleep, we’re going to mix things up. We’re going to curl up on the couch together and, you know, actually talk. It’s a shocking concept, but worth a shot.
What do you do to keep connected in the midst of chaos?
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