We don’t have a prenuptial agreement, but I wouldn’t have been opposed to one if the circumstances had called for it. For us, it wasn’t an issue because neither of us brought much in the way of assets to the marriage, and it is both of our feelings that anything that is earned during the marriage is the property of both parties. Obviously we plan to stay together forever and I am sure that will be the case, but if we were to get divorced I have total faith in Torsten as a person to know that he wouldn’t try to screw me over, and I would never do that to him either.

I don’t have a problem with prenups, though. I don’t think they have anything to do with planning to get divorced or anything like that. I think they fall into the same category as parents drawing up some sort of will that appoints guardianship of their children in case of the parents’ death. Parents don’t plan or expect to die while their children are still minors, but it still makes sense to have a plan in place.

I also think that a prenup can assure peace of mind if someone does bring assets into a relationship–it promises you that your fiance(e) is entering into the marriage for the right reasons. You know?

No, we don’t have one. Like you guys, it never even made it on the radar. We’re in this for life too.

I agree with you on prenuptial agreements. It makes sense for the next movie star, but for me I dont think its needed or wanted in my marriage. We both started with not too much and we worked together to get this far. Even if, for some reason, it didnt work… It doesnt matter who makes what… If one makes more money and works more, the other may have been keeping the house or motivating the bread winner. We may not be this far ahead had we not had eachother, or may be further ahead. Who knows. My money is his, and his is mine.

Hmm, I agree with everyone above. We both came in with nothing, so to split it all evenly makes the most sense.

However, I do have a good friend who comes from a wealthy family. Her parents insisted on a pre-nup, and were very involved in the arranging of her will. Basically, her husband gets none of the “family” money. It will all go to her and her children. They do specify all items gained during the marriage by her and her husband (through their jobs) is fair game, but not the inheritence. Her family has had some pretty nasty divorces, so I can see how this makes sense.

I am not married, but was seriously thinking about it at a time when my assets were, er, enough for “him” to eye them with greed (which I’m pretty sure he was doing). His assets were a lot less. He would never have gone for a pre-nup, but I spent some time looking up our state laws to confirm that everything I brought into the marriage was mine if we broke up. Though, frankly, if someone is the type to go after a spouse’s separate property, they can figure out ways to do it while married. For this reason, I decided to keep as much as possible in my 401K, which would be hard for even a spouse to access.

I think my experience tainted me a bit. Previously I wouldn’t have really given the pre-nup idea a thought. I figured I’d never marry a guy I couldn’t trust - and I’m not fond of the idea of divorce - but now I feel that’s naive; and that if you don’t protect your assets (assuming you have any), you might as well write them off as charity up front, so you don’t feel hurt when the spouse lays claims on them.