with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I read an article on CNN titled Jon and Kate plus hate? Ways to deal with common relationship stress (It’s a great article; I suggest you go read it). I thought that the points shared were worth discussing here. Marriage is hard enough as it is, but there are certain things that trigger stress and can make things even harder on the both of you.
1. A growing family
No kidding! Bringing home your very first newborn is a very stressful time. Are they eating enough? Are they eating too much? Are they sleeping enough? Are they sleeping too much? You’re likely getting your sleep in one to two hour increments (If you’re lucky) and we all know that sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on your emotions.
Each stage of childhood brings its own stresses and when you keep adding kids to the mix, the stress level can rise. Keeping your marriage relationship strong through communicating and spending time together just the two of you is vital.
2. Career changes
I think this one makes sense; career changes are stressful whether you are single or married. Our current stress on the career front is deciding whether or not I will return to work full-time (And thus, leave my husband as Daddy Daycare). It makes financial sense, but it will be a big change.
3. Intrusive in-laws
We don’t have any in-laws nearby, and even when we do see them they are far from intrusive. I am lucky, I know. For I have heard some scary tales from friends of mine that make me very thankful that our parents do not intrude.
4. You pick on each other
This is an absolute no-no in my personal opinion. The person you are married to should be your biggest defender and supporter (and vice versa). While we are all about the teasing around here, we don’t do so in a way that will hurt the other person.
OBVIOUSLY. There’s not much to add to the topic, other than I truly believe that your husband should be the number one man in your life. Period.
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