Yesterday afternoon I stumbled across this article (from MSN.com) that stated Chris Brown had pled guilty to assault. I don’t generally watch a lot of television or submerse myself in gossip magazines, but this whole situation has been very prominent in the news ever since the incident happened.

The thing is, I have never experienced abuse. My parents have flaws, yes, but they never once laid a hand on me or subjected me to mental terror. I married a man who in nine years of marriage has never (NEVER) said anything derogatory, condescending, or hurtful to me. He is my biggest supporter, my source of encouragement, my number one fan.

This is not the norm, and I know this. I know of women who have husbands who do not support them in all that they do. I also have met women who have been abused and in addition to feeling anger on their behalf, my heart just hurts a little.

If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to get out. You deserve more. You deserve better. You deserve to be loved, and honored, and cherished. You have been created as a beautiful being; you should be treated as such.

As much as I tout that marriage is for forever, I believe that abuse is a deal-breaker. Marriage is based on mutual love, respect and trust. Abuse breaks that trust.

Do what you need to get out. Talk to people. Got to a shelter if need be. Get counseling. Surround yourself with people who will love you, honor you, respect you.

YOU DESERVE IT.

Don’t even dare to tell me otherwise.

In addition to places in your local community to go to for support, my friend Maggie has created an online community called Violence Unsilenced. Whether you just read, or comment, or contribute, there is a whole group of people with whom you can connect with. As someone who has never experienced abuse personally, I am constantly inspired by the stories shared by those who have.

Do what you need to do to get the support you need. You are worth it.