with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I don’t know if I have mentioned it on this site before, but the first time that I had sex with my husband was…on our wedding night. Call me naive or old-school or archaic or whatnot, but we both share a faith that encourages you to wait until you are married in order to engage in “relations.”
Thanks to a quick run to the drugstore by a good friend of mine on the morning of my wedding to procure, um, a certain substance, our wedding night was pretty fantastic. As have been every marital encounter since then.
Over nine years later I can attest to the fact that the pop culture ideal that you need to give marriage (and sex) a “test drive” in order for you to make it long-term does not seem to hold true. Lest you think that I’m an anomaly, I read an article titled “Prenuptial Cohabitating Can Spoil Marriage” which backed up what I personally believe, complete with statistics and everything.
Don’t believe me? Go ahead and read the article.
I am not knocking those who live together before getting married in any way. I just feel as though our decision to not do so is often looked at as a little bit crazy. It’s nice to know that in addition to the fact that our almost-ten-year- relationship is a testament to the wisdom of our decision, there are also (non-faith-based) statistics that back us up.
I know I ask you guys for feedback a lot, but this is a bit of a hot topic.
What do you think about cohabitating before marriage?
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