Committed: The Ties that Bond
with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
Check out my Work It, Mom! profile and my blog, Dutch Blitz.
I don’t have a long dating history from before I met my husband. It’s not that I didn’t date, but I was one of those girls who went for relationships of the long-term variety. For the most part.
I spent over two years dating someone during my senior high years who was three years older than me. “Dating” seems like such a trivial word, considering that I had a promise ring. Do you remember those? Seventeen-year-old me wore it with pride. It now rattles around in the bottom of my jewelry box.
The next serious relationship I had was with a guy who was five years older than me. Five years older than me. I come from a small town and, well, it seemed that the older guys were always the ones who my friends and I dated. They were so “mature.” I put that in quotes because in hindsight it is nothing but hilarious.
I moved to the big city and went on dates here and there before meeting my (now) husband. He and I are two years apart. I am the older one. I also skipped third grade which means that the year I was in twelfth grade…he was in ninth grade.
Ew.
But we are no longer in high school. He has always been mature (more than most his age)(and me for the most part) and never do I feel like I am the older of the two of us. Except, of course, when he teases me about being older, reaching all of the milestones earlier, etcetera.
(He gets daily punches to the arm, for the record.)
How about you? What is your age difference?
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I’m older, but not by much. Two months and 11 days. And he NEVER lets me forget it.
In the past, I’ve only dated guys my own age (born in the same year) and older - four years older was the biggest age gap. I was 19, he was 23.
Mrs. Wilson | November 3rd, 2009 at 1:36 pm
I’m over 3 years older… 3 years and 10 months I believe… I won’t round up to 4 ;). When I was a freshman in college, he was a freshman in HS… eww… hehe. We didn’t meet until we were both out of HS.
K | November 3rd, 2009 at 1:58 pm
He’s 5 years older than I am. I didn’t try to date older guys, it just always seemed to work out that way.
hillary | November 3rd, 2009 at 2:28 pm
My ex was nearly ten years older; 9 and ~9 months. Perhaps too big an age range was just one of many issues.
Mich | November 3rd, 2009 at 3:43 pm
I’m 24, he’s 32, and it’s working, and we’re happy. I have always dated older guys, but realize now that the age difference works. Not so much when I was 18 and the guy I was seeing then was 27….WAAAAY too many differences in priorities!
Shelly | November 3rd, 2009 at 3:59 pm
He’s almost 6 years older, but I was 22 and he was nearly 28 when we start dating, so it wasn’t a big deal.
Meg | November 3rd, 2009 at 5:39 pm
We are (wait for it…) 14 years apart, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Men are no good until they’re 40 anyway.
Just kidding…
Coach J | November 3rd, 2009 at 6:02 pm
We’re only four years apart, but sometimes it feels like an entire generation separates us, mostly because I grew up in a super-conservative community and he…well, he read “The Basketball Diaries” when he was eleven and tested out of sex ed in sixth grade because he already knew everything (or so the story goes…).
Leah | November 3rd, 2009 at 7:46 pm
Bill is 7 years older than I am. And, the only time I ever feel like there’s a difference is when we listen to this ONE terrible radio station that plays 80s Hair Band music.
Rhi | November 3rd, 2009 at 7:47 pm
He’s older! By nine years
Camels & Chocolate | November 4th, 2009 at 1:10 am
Drum roll please…. 25 years! I have always said age was only a number, but I never thought I’d fall in love with a guy literally twice my age! I know it sounds weird, and there are some people who will think we’re insane. But the thing is, it just works…
Do I wish we were closer to the same age? Heck yeah! But life is so short anyway, I’m not wasting time complaining. We’re just glad we’re together NOW… Let tomorrow worry about itself.
B | November 4th, 2009 at 10:04 am
I am 5 & 1/2 years older than my husband. First time with someone younger than me. It’s good most of the time..but sometimes like another child…but they are all sometimes…right? Mothers..think twice before spoiling your sons…one day they will be someone’s husband…hopefully.
eileen | November 4th, 2009 at 10:42 am
Had a relationship with someone 18 years younger, it turned into the nightmare that everyone predicted very quickly. I will never go back there.
Baby Moses | November 5th, 2009 at 8:27 pm