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Committed: The Ties that Bond

with Angella Dykstra

I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

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Five habits of happy couples

Categories: communication, dating, love, marriage


I’ve started reading The Happiness Project and am thoroughly enjoying it. When I saw an article on Yahoo! Shine titled, “5 Habits Of The Happiest Couples” I was led to click through. The five points she listed made sense and I thought I’d share them here and put my spin on them.

1. Reach out. It’s far too easy to get wrapped up in our own busy-ness and stresses. Making the effort to ask your spouse how they’re really doing can do wonders for your connection.

2. Be thankful. Regular readers both here and on my personal site know how thankful I am for my husband. He’s pretty much one of the greatest men on the planet. The cool thing is, he’s just as thankful for me. If you focus on your partner’s faults, that will only lead to discontent (and who knows what else).

3. Live your passion. Oh, how I loved this point. If I’m in my groove creatively and happy with what I’m doing, that happiness spills into be loving on my husband.

4. Make do. Be happy with what you have, not discontent with what you don’t have. It kind of ties in to point 2, but is a good reminder that while goals and aspirations are good, being happy with what you already have will do wonders for your spirit.

5. Enjoy the simple pleasures. Yes! While we try to have a regular Date Night, they don’t break the budget. We also take joy in doing things together like gardening, hiking, etc.

Do you have any “happy habits” that you’d like to share with the class?

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3 comments so far...

  • I try to regularly remember the things that made me fall for him in the first place. Amazingly enough, he has grown in all of those areas in the last ten years, even though I thought they were pretty amazing traits to begin with. It helps me to appreciate who he is now that much more.

    Danica  |  March 19th, 2010 at 11:34 am

  • Great list! :-)

    Hannah  |  March 19th, 2010 at 3:58 pm

  • Happiness with your spouse is a choice — it is so true that it depends what you choose to focus on: the faults or the positive traits, what we wish we had or what we do have together…

    What is hard for me, as a naturally positive person, is to encourage my husband to focus on these positives so that he is happy in the “now” versus planning to be happy in the “future”, when his goals are accomplished. While you always strive for more, we all need to find happiness in the process to getting the goals accomplished.

    Doing things together (that don’t cost money) help us a lot, we love walking, hiking, cooking, sitting on our deck… so important to “turn life’s demands” off sometimes and connect…

    FrenchNad  |  March 21st, 2010 at 3:42 pm