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Committed: The Ties that Bond

with Angella Dykstra

I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

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Time for a marriage check-up

Categories: commitment, love, marriage

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I came across an Oprah.com article that was republished on on MSN.com titled, “Five-Point Marriage Check-Up“. I’m always looking for marriage topics for myself and to share here, and the title grabbed my attention. The five points she shared are ones that I’ve talked about and I thought it might be a good topic for today.

1. Stay Engaged Emotionally

This makes sense, of course. You got married for a reason; because you love each other and because you wanted to spend your life with this person. The busy-ness of life can get in the way far too easily - you need to make sure that you stay connected emotionally. (Date night!)

2. Stay Engaged Physically

Sex is an important part of being physically engaged (obviously) but the writer mentioned being active together outside of the bedroom. Take up a sport together, take a dance class, go for walks. I know that I love it when my husband and I can be outside together walking, rollerblading or biking. It’s a great time to share with each other and the resulting endorphins are never a bad thing.

3. Develop Mutual Interests

This is definitely important, for you would hate to be one of those couples who one day find out that they no longer have anything in common. It doesn’t mean that you have to do everything together, but you should have common interests. My husband and I share the same faith, a love of reading and a passion for trying to beat each other at Mario Kart.

4. Develop Separate Interests

Yes! While my husband and I have a lot on common, we also have different interests. I love to write and to take photos, he loves to build things and explore the great outdoors. This is a good thing - it keeps us both happy in our personal growth and gives us stuff to talk about with each other.

5. Don’t Stop Believing

Marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses, but as you grow as a couple there is far more good than bad. Remember the good things on a bad day to get you through.

Any tips you think should be included?



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  • Bryan and I have a rule that has worked out well: only one of us is allowed to freak the heck out at a time.

    samantha Jo Campen  |  April 14th, 2010 at 6:38 pm

  • We have that rule…especially since I freak out hugely enough for the both of us.

    Angella  |  April 15th, 2010 at 11:05 am

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