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I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.

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Do feel pressured to make date nights extra “exciting”?

Categories: dating, love, marriage


I was interviewed by the Globe & Mail for an article about date nights. (It’s running today - here’s the link.) (I am incredibly honored and maybe a little excited to see my name in print over there.) The article was inspired by the movie Date Night that’s coming out, where the couple feels pressured to shake up their usual date night routine.

If you’ve read here long enough, you know that I am a strong advocate for regular date nights and am fully aware that we are in a bit of a rut. I keep saying that we should change it up, but it hasn’t happened yet. Part of could be due to the fact that I’m in the trenches of tax season (and overtime), so any kind of date night has fallen by the wayside for the past month.

Our anniversary trip to Vegas next month should make up for that fact for a bit, but I do think we should try something new. Golf lessons? Parasailing (EEK)? I’m not sure but we need to sit down together and think of some ideas.

How about you? Do you feel pressure to make date nights more exciting?

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5 comments so far...

  • Yes!! it almost doesn’t feel like a date night unless it’s exciting and full of laughter and smiles and “extra special” things that don’t happen on a normal weeknight.

    Stephanie Parnell  |  April 16th, 2010 at 11:52 am

  • Congratulations!
    I think golf lessons is a great idea. Relaxing, leisurely - lots of time to chat and enjoy the outdoors together. It’s the one hobby my husband and I have in common (not that we go often enough - we don’t - though we’re hoping to more often this summer)
    I’ve sort of given up on date nights. It’s very sad, I know. I did feel a lot of pressure to make them exciting, and I did feel like I failed at that, over and over and over again.
    I was thinking last week that I should hire a weekly sitter and try and force it anyways. Again. Sigh. I’m torn.

    Danica Grunert  |  April 16th, 2010 at 12:17 pm

  • We live in a town where there often isn’t much going on (or we don’t know about it). On the nights when we actually get a sitter it seems like we are always at a loss for ideas. We too often end up going out for dinner and seeing a movie. I’d like to change it up, but haven’t found the motivation to do the leg work.

    Tia  |  April 16th, 2010 at 1:24 pm

  • You’re famous! I’m going to pretend to know you :D

    Meg  |  April 16th, 2010 at 1:47 pm

  • I feel like we work the opposite. We plan activities and I decide later we should call it ‘date night’. In other words we do lots of things together all the time just the two of us - we just don’t call them ‘dates’. Granted we don’t have any kids yet - so life will change a bit come early August. I think taking a walk around the block or spending a lazy hour in the hammock together is just as much a ‘date’ to me as going out to dinner :) Shaking things up for me is actually wearing make-up for dinner out - that really shocks the hubby!

    Jilian  |  April 19th, 2010 at 6:36 pm