with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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My husband told me about a phone-in conversation on our local radio station where they asked people if they returned gifts upon the dissolution of the relationship. There were arguments for either side.
One camp argues that a gift is a gift and to ask for it to be returned is not only inappropriate, it is rude. If a friendship fades away, you don’t then approach that friend and ask for all of the gifts you exchanged to be returned.
The other camp argues that if you buy something such as an engagement ring, and that engagement is broken off, then the ring should be returned to the one who purchased it.
I look at the people close to me and see that the stories differ. A good friend was engaged, it ended, and the ring was returned to the one who purchased it.
I had a Promise Ring (Gag if you must, but it was a two-year relationship)(And I was eighteen). We went our separate ways, me with the ring in my possession. I did not even think about giving it back since I was the one saying goodbye (And it really wasn’t fancy or expensive). Our split was amicable, happened for no solid reason, and yet eighteen years later I still have a ring in my jewelery box that will never be worn. I probably could have given it back, but what would he have done with it?
When relationships end do you give everything back? Or do you store them away because they were gifts to you?
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