with Angella Dykstra
I'm a mom of three, a professional accountant, and an amateur photographer and writer. I am not a marriage expert. But my husband and I take "Til death do us part" seriously, and here I'll be sharing how we keep our marriage strong while we both do that insane work-life juggle.
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I read an article over at Divine Caroline about couples who are married who choose to live apart. We’re not talking about separation here; we’re talking about choosing to get married but staying in your own places. A quote from the article:
Proponents of keeping things separate say that allowing each person the freedom to be him or herself within the relationship helps each to be a better and happier partner. Opponents say that the negotiation required to overcome personal differences and learn to function together as a unit is the most invaluable aspect of marriage, and couples that structure their lives so that they never have to inconvenience themselves are, in essence, cheating. Some also worry about the lessons absorbed by children living within these types of families; they could come to believe that marriage is a completely individual pursuit that doesn’t require any adaptation, compromise, or sacrifice.
My thoughts exactly (The latter part, of course). Marriage is about making a commitment to share your life with another person. To grow with them. To create experiences (and a life) together. If you’re going to live in a separate space and just get together for the “fun times”, why even bother getting married?
What do you guys think? Would you be married but maintain a separate home?
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